tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24408186433857170192024-03-05T12:39:40.634-08:00Marie BerbickMotivational Speaker and Founder of SUPHER Women’s Ministry Marie Berbick, dishes on those relationship issues we are often afraid to be frank about.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-86505070116635825892018-10-25T11:13:00.000-07:002018-10-25T11:13:00.899-07:003 Reasons You Keep Choosing The Wrong Men<br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt;">Ask any happy couple
what it took for them to get where they are in their relationship today and
they will tell you about the sweat and tears that came before the smiles. </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Relationships require effort that some persons
are not willing to give but sadly there are also others who are putting in the
work but with the wrong people. I’ve talked with countless women who are going through
this kind of negative relationship pattern.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Karen is a caring, attractive
woman who can hold her own financially but she is tired of the pattern of
failed relationships in her life. She isn’t looking for a man to complete her (or
so she thinks) but she keeps getting it wrong when it comes to the men she
chooses. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Her relationship history goes something
like this –--She meets a man she is totally into. He is struggling with some
things in his life but in her eyes, he seems just right for her. In everybody
else’s eyes he is wrong for her. She ignores the ‘haters’ and proceeds with the
relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Things seem to be
going great for the first few months until she begins to feel overwhelmed. Something
is off. Instead of feeling like a woman in the relationship, she is feeling
like a fixer. There are just too many issues with the man and she is buckling under
the pressure of having to hold it all together. She hangs on for a while but eventually
things crumble and everybody around her says ‘I told you so’.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Sounds familiar? Karen
thought others were just hating on her but there was something they saw, that
she could not, because she was on the kind of emotional high that supports the
popular phrase that “love is blind’.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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are three reasons why women like Karen might be getting it wrong each time.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Your Giving Nature Is Attracting Takers<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Which man doesn’t want
a nice, caring, generous woman? Most do. However, when you are a giver, you will
attract takers. If you are a giver, you need someone who watches your back because
people will take advantage of your kind nature. People will come into your life
simply to take from you because you like to give. What you need to do is use
wisdom even in giving of yourself. Take time to discern people and motives. Ask
him deep questions to uncover the motive behind his interest in you. If you
keep giving to a man who is not pouring back into you, like Karen, you will become
frustrated, drained and overwhelmed. Unless you pull back, assess yourself and
the kind of men you allow into your life, the cycle of takers will continue and
you will not find a healthy relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">You are Attracting Broken Men<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Men do not open up very easily but many are broken
and wish they could find someone they can trust to spill their hearts to. If
you are a great listener with a heart for helping people and you like to show
empathy, it is easy for broken people to gravitate to you. One of the main reasons
broken men gravitate toward you is that you are often times also broken, without
even realizing it. Perhaps you have had a failed relationship from which you
have not healed, or never had closure. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe
you have had an unfortunate experience that has caused you to be quite vulnerable.
Broken men find it easy to talk to you because you seem to ‘understand’ them.
One of the reasons for that connection is that like spirits attract. In the same
way that successful people are attracted to other successful people, broken
people attract broken people. Hurting people attract hurting people so something
in your spirit is a pull for men who are broken. A broken man cannot give you a
wholesome relationship. He is not whole, emotionally, mentally or spiritually, hence
what you desire from him he is not in a position to give you. If you are not
mentally strong, a broken man will break you. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">You Keep Looking for Projects in Your Relationships<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">For a relationship to
be successful, both partners must be committed to problem solving, there is no
smooth relationship. Unfortunately some women, particularly successful women make
the mistake of continually finding men who are ‘projects. These men may require
quite a bit of work before they are ready for a relationship. The consequence
of that decision is that they you may <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>spend
more time trying to fix the man than they spend enjoying the relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The sad truth is that
successful women are used to getting things done, they are used to winning at
things. They have mapped out a strategy for their success which they have
tested and proven hence they know how to get things done. When things aren’t
working out as planned, they FIX it and keep fixing a problem until it’s
resolved to their satisfaction. The mistake that <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>some of these women sometimes make though, is that
many are taking a similar approach to their love lives and it doesn’t work.
Here’s why.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A man is not a project
you can fix.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do not see the red flags
yet still proceed with the relationship because you believe that just like a
work related project, you can fix him. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The
mistake you are making is that instead of finding a man who is emotionally healthy
and relationship ready, you keep finding broken men, then attempting to fix
them just as you would, another project. Sometimes what he needs is a therapist
or a mentor depending on his problem. It is better to let a man fix himself
before you get into a relationship with him. If you believe you are a fixer,
step back and assess the men who are coming into your life. Begin to choose men
who can assume their rightful role in your life, that is to hold you up, rather
than men who are looking for a woman to hold them up. It’s time to relax and enjoy
a relationship with someone who doesn’t need you to fix them.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker, an ordained minister
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>and founder of the women’s ministry
Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER).
Follow her on Facebook and<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Instagram at
MarieBerbick. Email marieberbick@gmail.com<o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
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happiness again or at least you hope to, with remarriage. He or she is just
wonderful and they have made you believe in love again. However, there is one mountain, perhaps a big one, standing between
you both and it can come in a small package or several packages of various
ages— ranging from very young, to adult. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Many persons
underestimate the significant role that stepchildren, their like or dislike of
you will play in the success of your relationship or marriage. Some persons
have been fortunate enough to inherit step children who have never caused
serious marital problems for them, but others have not been so lucky. It might
come as a surprise but Psychology Today listed step children as ‘</span><strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">The single
greatest predictor that a marriage will fail’</span></strong><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">. Yes, </span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">it is that serious. So, what are some of the
things you need to know about the
challenges that often come with dating or marrying someone who has
children from a previous relationship?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Don’t underestimate the power step children wield
over the success of your relationship—</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">The biggest mistake you can make is to enter a
relationship with someone who has a child/children from a previous
relationship, without having a plan to deal with them. Step children wield
significant power in relationships. The decision to marry someone your children
resent is yours but be mindful that those children will have a lot of power in
determining whether your marriage succeeds. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">You should court stepchildren too-</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">- Stepchildren can make or break your
relationship. During the courtship, be sure to recognize that you are not just
courting their mom/dad, you are also courting their children. It’s a package
deal so start thinking about the importance of winning over the children too. Start
thinking ‘inclusive’ when you plan certain activities, so that they do not feel
left out or feel threatened that you are taking all their mother’s or father’s
time. Whilst winning over the step children makes life easier, you also need to
establish some attitude rules with the children that makes it clear to them
that their feelings are important to you but you also expect them to be
respectful of your partner and your relationship. Although you know the power
they wield, never give them the impression you are intimidated or allow them to
think that they have control over your relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Boys are super protective of their mothers—</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Any man who has dated a woman who has a male
child from a previous relationship will probably tell his pal who is courting a
woman who has boys, to get himself ready for combat. This is because boys are
extremely protective of their mothers and often jealous of any man who has her
attention. There are men who shared with me that they were practically forced
out of a woman’s life by her boy child. A man who wants to get close to a woman
who has boys should learn the psychology of getting those boys comfortable
enough to trust him around their mom. Men, be mindful also that you may have to
teach those boys how to be men, by how you treat their mother. They may still
be jealous but they will respect you for treating her well and don’t make the
mistake of abusing her as it might cost you dearly.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Stepmothers are more likely to be resented than
stepfathers</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">—We
hear more about the evil stepmother than we do the evil stepfather however
Cinderella isn’t to be blamed for this. Studies have in fact shown that stepmothers
are treated worse than stepfathers. James Bray and Mavis Hetherington who have
done exhaustive studies on step parent relationships found that </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">less than 20% of
adult stepchildren liked their stepmother and it had nothing to do with them
seeing her as a homewrecker. It was mainly resentment borne out of a sense of
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">It’s not just the younger stepchildren that
will resent you</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">—The
younger ones might throw a tantrum, malice you, refuse to take instructions
from you and tell you pretty often, the words every step parent dread …<i>’You’re not my daddy or you’re not my
mommy’.</i> However, the younger step children can sometimes be the least of
your problems. When it comes to awareness of inheritance, properties and other
assets, the older stepchildren are the ones with whom you are likely to have
your biggest battle, worse if the wife is much younger than their father.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A
relationship/marriage with stepchildren can work but it takes extra effort on
the part of both partners and the children involved. Stepchildren should
understand that their feelings, happiness and views matter, but they are not in
control of your decisions. Love them, include them, but at the end of the day,
yourself and your partner need to work as a team to protect your relationship
and by extension, your new family.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl and
on Facebook @ Marie Berbick. Email marieberbick@gmail.com<o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-11595674112489284652017-09-14T10:34:00.002-07:002017-09-14T10:34:52.169-07:00How to know when he’s not ready for a relationship with you<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 15.95pt; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; tab-stops: 45.8pt 91.6pt 137.4pt 183.2pt 229.0pt 274.8pt 320.6pt 366.4pt 412.2pt 458.0pt 503.8pt 549.6pt 595.4pt 641.2pt 687.0pt 732.8pt;">
<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you have been scratching
your head trying to figure why a man you care about keeps questioning why you
have chosen him, pause for a moment, let’s reason.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Sometimes a woman who
has accomplished certain things in her life, and who is expected to opt for a
partner of a certain status, chooses a man who isn’t anywhere close to her in
terms of achievements, whether educationally, or financially. Nothing is wrong
with being with a man who isn’t your educational or financial equal, as long as
he treats you with love and respect and brings value to the relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The real problem
arises when despite everything you do to reassure him, he still questions why
you chose him. Sometimes the problem is
simply this…he might be ready for a relationship but just not a relationship
with you. Here are some of the signs he isn’t ready for a relationship with YOU.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Nothing you do reassures him: </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Regardless of what you do or say to reassure
him, that he is the one you want, he keeps asking why you chose him. Some
persons have self-esteem issues, which are deep rooted, possibly from past
hurts. If he has been rejected by someone who might have been in a similar
social standing as you, he will find it difficult to believe that you do want
him. Whilst he is with you, he is waiting to hear you say it’s over any minute.
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">He wants to control your personal and
professional interactions: </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A man who feels that he can lose you at any time to someone whom
he perceives is better ‘qualified’ , is likely to try to hold on to you for
dear life by being controlling. He might want to restrict your communication and
dictate the time you spend with others, even professional associates. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">He constantly finds excuses to avoid committing</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">: Men often retreat and do not open up when
they are thinking through things. If you want him to commit and he feels he isn’t
ready for a woman like you, it is unlikely he will tell you but his cues might
include retreating without explanation. What he is doing is processing the
situation, how to deal with it. He is trying
to figure if he should believe that you genuinely want HIM, if he should just
relax and risk it, or if he should invest in getting himself up to your level so
that he may feel more secure in himself. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">He does not have certain things that make a
man feel accomplished:</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> When a man over a certain age, does not have some things that
make him feel secure as a man, such as a good paying job, a car, a house or
anything of real value that makes him feel accomplished, it can be difficult
for him to maintain a relationship, worse with a woman who already has those things.
Some men will not move into a woman’s house. These are the traditional types
who feel they should be providing her with a roof over her head and not the
other way around. If a man is not in a position to put a roof over a woman’s
head or even to take her out for a meal, it will be difficult for him to
believe that an accomplished woman wants him in her life, unless it’s for a
casual affair. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you notice these
things about a man that you are genuinely interested in, it does not matter how
good a woman you are.</span><span lang="EN-US" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;"> You will
continue to have failed relationships if you choose a man who isn't ready for you.</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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that he's not up to your standard, your relationship will be filled with
insecurities and mothering moments. You trying to convince him that he is the
one you want, that he's worthy of you and him trying to figure out what you see
in him. All that time should be spent building your relationship, but instead
you'll be stuck, justifying the relationship. The problem is in his head and
YOU can't fix it, he has to fix it himself and come back when he's ready for YOU.</span>
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Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on Facebook, Instagram at MarieBerbick and twitter @thePR
Girl. Email marieberbick@gmail.com<o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-83080701766891731652017-05-07T13:08:00.000-07:002017-05-07T13:08:11.471-07:00Men Size Up Their Competition Too<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVvS07YfY0cgZx4w1ML70mgAS6vrPlIm3yr4QxreqAyhVrJaVr1SpmrEvgdNZDrvjYd7Zx5z15t6W-7BeDaEhWb8iWgEDrFtgGZgQ-W1tttJtltXtCgvwcuN5alMA3Nou0CQt-ENiRAvA/s1600/830318_10151488915183552_794049215_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVvS07YfY0cgZx4w1ML70mgAS6vrPlIm3yr4QxreqAyhVrJaVr1SpmrEvgdNZDrvjYd7Zx5z15t6W-7BeDaEhWb8iWgEDrFtgGZgQ-W1tttJtltXtCgvwcuN5alMA3Nou0CQt-ENiRAvA/s200/830318_10151488915183552_794049215_o.jpg" width="200" /></a><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Despite what you may
have heard, it’s not only women who when they lose out to another woman, take
the time to size up their competition. Yes, a man also gets rattled when a
woman chooses another man over him.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Often the jilted woman
reacts more emotionally than a man in the same situation does, but just like
women, men also hate being rejected. A man who either loses his woman to
another man or loses out on his bid to win the affection of a woman he is
seriously interested in, spends time going over in his head, possible reasons
he lost. He tries to figure out several things.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> 1. </span><b style="text-indent: -18pt;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Money</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;">--- Having money means a lot to most men. They want to be able
to impress or take care of their woman, so yes a man wonders if the object of
his affection chose the other man because that man is better able to provide
for her. In fact, if this is the case, that can be a huge blow to his ego. No
man wants to lose a woman to another man because he is unable to adequately
provide for her. One of the worse things a woman can do to a man who is doing
his best to provide for her, is to tell him she can find a man who can give her
more than he can. It will rattle him to his core and sometimes takes years for
him to get over.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> 2. </span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b style="text-indent: -18pt;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Sex-</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"> perhaps even moreso than
lack of money, no man wants to lose his woman to another man because the other
man is better in bed than he is. If a woman cheats on her partner, one of the
first things the man who has been cheated on does, is to go over and over in
his mind, the visual image of his woman with that other man. One of the most
burning questions in the man’s head is whether the other man was better than he
is. Some men will muster up the courage to actually ask, even if it’s not a
straight forward question, because he is very curious to know and wants to
improve even if this relationship is over. Some men will never ask. Their ego
will not allow them to ask such a question. He would rather torment himself
with the thoughts in his head for he cannot handle the answer, if in fact his
worse fears are confirmed.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 115%; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> 3. </span><b style="text-indent: -18pt;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Looks-</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"> Although a lot of men strongly believe that once they have
money, looks is secondary to most women, a man does question himself about his
attractiveness when rejected. Unlike women, men are better at hiding the fact
that they feel threatened by a man who is physically more attractive. However,
if you get them to open up, you will be surprised how fragile a man’s ego is. So,
yes, a man will size up a more attractive man whom he feels threatened by.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Having money, good
looks and being a great lover are all plus factors for men but one of the
biggest mistakes men make sometimes, is thinking that material things are the
greatest attractions for all women. Not true.</span><span lang="EN-US" style="background: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> Depending on the type of woman, sometimes it's not about how
much money a man has, nor the cars and houses that he owns, that will attract a
certain kind of woman. It's about what makes him different from all the others…how
he treats her, how much love and respect he shows her, how he values and
treasures her. How much time he takes to really understand her so that he can
fulfill her needs and love her right. A woman who already has material comfort
will appreciate a man who comes to her with something far deeper than material
things. He must speak to her soul.</span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MarieBerbick/">https://www.facebook.com/MarieBerbick/</a></span></i></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Anything that has been
parked for too long, not being used will become rusty. The same applies for
persons who have not been in a relationship for an extended period. That moment
when you are ready to take the plunge again, you will discover that a lot may
have changed in the world of dating and that you are very much out of practice.
Here are a few things that you might find yourself struggling with.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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relationships build walls to protect themselves in moving forward. However, the
walls you build to keep out the people you fear will hurt you, might very well
prevent you from enjoying a great relationship with someone who is genuine. Walls
come down with healing, trust and time so be open with this new person about
your fears. Slowly take the walls down rather than allow your fears to cause
you to lose a good man/woman.</span></div>
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years, you might find yourself struggling to get used to another person in your
space. Once you both agree that you are serious, spending time together is
essential, however, it can be difficult to re-adjust to having someone else
around, after you have become so used to being by yourself. Be careful though, that you do not push that
person away by being selfish with your time and refusing to allow them into
your space except when YOU want to see them. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">He/she checking on you</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- A good man or woman wants to know that their
partner is OK when they are not around. Whether it is to inquire if you got
home safely or if you have eaten. However, even these simple caring acts can
appear intrusive to a person who has not been in a relationship for a long
time. They can find it difficult to get used to ‘reporting’ to another person.
In the same way that some people find it very hard to get used to functioning on
their own again after a broken long term relationship, the person who is getting
back into a relationship after a long break can find it hard to re-adjust to
being accountable to someone else. If you do not live together, it is natural
for your significant other to want to know you got home safely after a date, so
call or text as soon as you get home.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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careful that the dominant topic of your conversations are not about your ex and
how much you despise them. A good man or woman will listen because they care
about you but if too much of your time together is spent reminiscing about the
past, that person will eventually get turned off. It doesn’t matter how long
you have split from someone, if you spend most of your time talking about them,
it means you are not ready to move forward. Ladies, don’t tell a man everything
about your past either. As long as you are not endangering his life, some things
he does not need to know. Talk to a therapist. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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for persons who have not been in a relationship for some time. Loneliness can
cause them to think they are ready for a new person in their lives when they
are not ready for a relationship. A relationship involves doing things
together, spending quality time together, planning together and incorporating
that person into your life in many ways. When you are ready for a serious
relationship after a long break, you will be prepared for companionship, not
just have the desire for someone else’s company when you feel lonely.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email
marieberbick@gmail.com<o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-49638108418122710512017-01-23T07:22:00.001-08:002017-01-23T07:22:11.669-08:00Six People Who Can Stop Your Relationship From Going Anywhere <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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brave a man appears to be in going after
a woman he is truly interested in, there are some specific persons in that
woman’s life whom he finds intimidating because of their influence on her
decisions. The same applies for women in certain situations. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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who can make or break that relationship he seeks with a woman, include her
father (for women it’s his mother), her children if she’s a mother, her best
friend, her pastor and her ex.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I have said before and
will repeat that men are just as emotionally fragile as women, they are just
better at hiding it. This is why a lot of women have no idea how nerve wracking
it can be for a man to get past the gatekeepers in her life. Here’s why these
persons have such a huge impact on whether a man gets past the gate or if he
does get in, whether he is able to remain.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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woman’s father normally has his antennas up when it comes to a man who wants to
court his daughter. This is even worse
if he was a girls’ man or the wild type back in his day. A good father is normally
very protective of his daughter so any man who wants to take her from him has
to be thoroughly scrutinized and sometimes well investigated too. This can make
a man very nervous especially if his intentions are not good or the daughter
has a very close relationship with her dad. My own father could tell me within
the first five minutes of meeting my date, whether he was up to any good, and
he was always right.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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her man’s mother can count her lucky stars for she has struck gold! For a new
girlfriend, a man’s mother can be the most intimidating person in his family.
If God smiles on her and momma likes her, everyone else is almost irrelevant.
Even throughout a marriage, a man’s mother can remain an intimidating figure
for the wife. The pressure is even greater for women whose men are very close
to their mothers, and whose decisions are heavily influenced by whether momma thinks
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has children from another relationship, the experience can be comparable to
walking on eggshells. It is not easy to get past that gate, if her children do
not welcome him. It can therefore be very painful for a man who meets a woman
he truly wants to be with, but her children are determined to make it an
experience from hell. It is a very tough position to be in, when a woman likes
a man that her children are opposed to, for no reason, other than that he is
not their daddy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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person in her life, including her intimate relationships. A best friend,
whether male or female can sometimes cause a man to be locked out, regardless
of how hard he is knocking at the gate. Women confide a lot in their best
friends and if the best friend’s advice is taken as gospel as is the case with
some women, a man needs to win the best friend over if he is to get anywhere
with the woman he wants. Not every woman makes a decision based on what her best
friend thinks but many do and in those cases, a man can find that a woman’s
best friend holds that key he so badly wants in order to get past the gate.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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dating or married Christian couples. Pastors can be very influential in a
Christian woman’s life and if she is misguided in terms of her role as a wife,
this can be quite detrimental for her marriage. Out of ignorance, a lot of
Christian women are more dedicated to their Pastor and their duties at church
than they are to the needs of their husbands or in sustaining a happy and
healthy marriage. A man might therefore find that Pastor’s instructions
overrule his in his own household and if pastor does not approve of him, he
might not get through that gate or if he does, he will be in for a rough ride.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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be a big turn off for a man who is seeking to be with her. Not everyone has the
patience to deal with the drama that comes with a woman who has an obsessive or
controlling ex. She could be a very good woman who is unfortunately saddled
with the burden of the ex from hell, but unless it’s a man who genuinely loves
and wants her in his life, the stress of that situation could keep him at bay.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment
& Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Breaking up is
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term relationship with someone who has become a fixture in their lives.
When things begin to fall apart, one of the most difficult things to do is
decide when it’s time to just let go, call it a day. This is because people for
the most part, do not give up on their relationship that easily. They will
fight to save it. Sometimes it’s worth it but at other times, they end up
losing themselves in the process fighting for something that in the end will
eventually crash and burn.<o:p></o:p><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When one or both
partners decide to walk away, sometimes they end up getting back together a few
weeks, months or even years later, only for the relationship to end for good,
shortly after. So why do people keep going back into relationships which
supposedly have ended?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Here are six reasons to
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it is quite normal to miss their company when the relationship breaks up. Even
if they were a nightmare in some ways, there would have been good times you
will miss. When you’ve been with someone you wake up with each day, someone who
visits with you pretty often and with whom you’ve had memorable experiences,
it’s hard to just let go. Even the men who play tough like it doesn’t matter,
are often lying to themselves and others…getting over someone doesn’t happen
overnight.</span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;"> </span></div>
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for someone who is coming out of a long term relationship. Depending on how
long they were married to or involved with their partner, some people become
very dependent on their partner. They forget how to function as an individual.
It becomes tempting therefore to get back with the person you broke up with
because it feels alien to go it alone. This
is why they will try to mend the relationship shortly after the breakup. However,
getting back together because of the fear of being alone is one of the biggest
mistakes people who were in unhealthy relationships make. It’s better to learn
how to function by yourself again. Discipline yourself to start doing again on
your own, the things you used to depend on your partner to do for or with you.
Do not return to an unhealthy relationship because you are lonely.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">3.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">There is a Soul Tie—</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">For persons who are not religious, you might
not even consider this but it is very real. You can establish a soul tie with
anyone you’ve slept with. Your soul becomes intertwined with another person
through sex and even when you know the person isn’t good for you, you cannot
seem to let go of them. Think carefully about how many times you’ve seen
persons in relationships that you know and they also know isn’t good for them.
They break up only to make up and break up again in an unending toxic cycle.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">4.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">They miss the sex—</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you had a good sex life with someone, it is possible to miss
that aspect of the relationship so much that you keep going back despite the
weaknesses in the other areas of the relationship. This is particularly so, if
you did not leave the relationship to be with someone else or if the new person
you ended your relationship for, isn’t satisfying your sexual needs. Persons
who are fresh from a broken relationship sometimes find someone else to satisfy
their sexual needs, even as they are struggling with the emotional mess that
they sometimes become. It becomes easy therefore to call up or try to get back
with an ex in order to satisfy the need for sex. A man might find this easier
to do than a woman because for most men, sex is a physical act that they can
easily participate in without emotional attachment. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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work and nurturing to sustain them. In a long term relationship, one has to
continually find ways to keep things spicy and exciting. Persons can become complacent
and take their partner for granted. This complacency sometimes continues until
the other partner walks away. When this happens, it’s normally a moment of rude
awakening for the other partner especially when they realize they are unable to
find someone who brought to their lives, the value that their ex did.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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because of the financial security their partner provides. It is not strange
therefore to miss the comfortable lifestyle and all the goodies that came from
being with someone who was providing for you financially. It’s up to a man to
be smart and not allow a woman who was simply using him to seduce him back into
a relationship, in which he is merely there to provide financial assistance. The
same goes for women who spend on men. Be
careful that you do not get sucked back into a relationship with a man who just
wants your money.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">It is normal to miss
someone with whom you’ve ended a relationship but weigh carefully the reasons
you really want this person back in your life or the reasons they want to come
back into your life. If you’re feeling lonely or miss the sex, that’s not
reason enough to try to mend a relationship which quite possibly might not even
work out after a few more tries.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a communications specialist, motivational speaker and founder of the
women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment &
Restoration. (SUPHER). Keep up with her on Facebook at </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://facebook.com/marieberbick%20or%20at%20marieberbick.blogspot.com/">http://facebook.com/marieberbick
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follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email
</i><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-75446859756826898342016-11-07T03:01:00.000-08:002016-11-07T03:01:14.898-08:005 Things She Doesn’t Like But Probably Won’t Tell You<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
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in real life, a man can perhaps come as close as eighty percent in terms of
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having the qualities that will make a woman feel she has won the jackpot but no
one person will have all the qualities she’s ideally looking for. That said, a
lot of men want to feel like Superman to their woman, but there are also
situations where a woman might meet a man she thinks is ideal for her, only to
suddenly back away from him without explaining why. Here are <b>five </b>reasons a woman will abruptly go
from hot to cold on a man.<o:p></o:p><br />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Sexual Performance issues ---</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A couple is normally excited at the onset of
the dating game. They want to spend as much time as possible together, getting
to know each other and building towards a sexual relationship. For some men,
getting the woman into bed is the ultimate aim, they can barely contain their
curiousity to find out what it’s like to make love to her. Women also spend
time excitedly anticipating that moment especially if she’s really into the
man. The high she’s on can come crashing down however, if they finally get
intimate and she discovers that the
reality of the experience is very far from what she envisioned. This can either
be a matter of medically related sexual performance problems, disappointment
with the size of his penis or disappointment with his skills as a lover. If you
have a sexual inadequacy problem, be honest with her and tell her before you
become intimate. It’s better to give her the opportunity to mentally prepare
and be pleasantly surprised that you performed better than expected. If you
know you have medically related performance issues, don’t exaggerate sexual
skills you do not have, as this will come back to haunt you when the moment of
reckoning comes and you are unable to deliver. A woman knows a man takes his
ability to perform sexually very seriously, so sharing her dissatisfaction is
not something a lot of women are comfortable doing. An outspoken woman might be
frank with you but another woman might prefer to slowly pull away and spare you
the blow of admitting that your penis size is an issue for her or she’s not
happy with the way you perform.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">2.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When he’s tight with money</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">—Most women anticipate that their man will
assist them financially if necessary. Don’t be fooled by the fact that she
doesn’t ask you to help her. She’s probably hoping you will offer so don’t take
her not asking as a sign that she’s OK with you not giving. Despite popular
perception that there are too many beggy, beggy women, there are also women who
are not comfortable asking a man for anything. They will accept if you offer
and in some cases they expect you to offer without them having to ask. It’s
better to offer your woman a gift and have her refuse it than to withhold
assistance because you think she’s OK. Some men are hesitant to approach a
woman they like if they are not in a financial position to date her. They
probably cannot afford to take her out or buy her gifts but not every woman judges
a man by his current situation. Some women observe your intentions and ambition
so taking even a fruit to her each time you go to see her, shows her that you
mean her well. Men, this is not about women wanting to dig out your pockets,
choose wisely the woman you allow into your life and treat her well. When a man
fails to take care of his lady’s needs, he leaves the door open for another man
to come in and offer to do what he isn’t doing. Don’t allow your woman to be
tempted because you are failing to take care of her needs. Depending on her
personality, some women will be frank and tell a man that he is mean, but
others will simply back away from a man once they discover that he’s not inclined
to provide any financial support to her.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">3.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Poor hygiene—</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">There are men who take hygiene seriously. They like to look and
feel clean. But there are others who simply do not take the time to ensure they
are clean, smelling good and attractive for their women. Shaving, brushing
teeth regularly, flossing and using deodorant are some of the little things
that make a man a pleasure to get intimate with. A woman might like a man but
does not like his hygiene practices and telling someone to step up on their
hygiene is often one of the most difficult things for a person to do. If the
relationship is new, it is highly unlikely that a woman will want to tell a man
she isn’t happy with his hygiene. He perhaps has to look for subtle signals
like her buying him deodorant, a special toothpaste,etc. But not every woman
has the patience to deal with a man who does not practice good hygiene. Once
she realizes he’s lacking in that department, she might slowly back away
without an explanation. If you meet a woman, take note of how she carries
herself, observe how she keeps her surroundings and this will give you subtle
hints of how seriously she takes hygiene. You can then improve your own hygiene
practices rather than wait for her to either tell you to step it up or pull a
disappearing act.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">4.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Cowardly behaviour-</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> Most women want a man who makes them feel safe. They want to
know he will step up and protect them as necessary and this is not just
physical protection but emotionally, she wants a man who shows empathy, cares
about her feelings, is mentally strong, solutions oriented and assertive. When
a man displays cowardly behavior around a woman, especially one he is just
getting to know, this can be a major turn off. If he takes her on a date, he
should ensure she feels safe with him. If they come under any kind of attack,
his first instinct should be to ensure he protects her from harm, not run away
to save himself and leave her in harm’s way. For a woman, her man is her knight
in shining armour, she expects him to love and protect her, and to have her
best interest at heart. If a woman doesn’t feel that kind of confidence in a
man who’s courting her, she might not stick around, unless her interest is
dependent on what he can do for her financially.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">5.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Secret Sexual orientation</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- Today, more men are openly gay or bisexual
and there are women who knowingly marry gay and bisexual men. However, not
every woman is OK with a man who is gay or bisexual. If this type of woman gets
the slightest suspicion that the man she is with is secretly gay or bisexual,
she might disappear without another word to him. One reason for this is the
shame she feels about competing with another man for her man’s affections. It
can leave her feeling very demoralized and damage her self esteem. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-65537077660248751372016-10-17T12:17:00.001-07:002016-10-17T12:17:53.767-07:00Don’t Rub Butter in Puss Mouth<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">How many times have
you heard women lament that their best friend ‘stole’ their man? A woman ending
up with her best friend’s boyfriend is not strange, it happens more often than
we think. I don’t believe anyone can ‘steal’ a man or woman from their partner.
A person cannot be made to leave you unless they want to but sometimes a woman,
without even realizing it, can create opportunities for her man to get with
other women.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Good men exist but good
doesn’t mean perfect and this is a lesson too many women are yet to grasp.
While some men do love and respect their women very much and will not go
seeking opportunities to cheat, a different scenario exists when a woman places
temptation within easy reach of her man. That temptation comes in the form of
other females who are close to her, including best friend/s and relatives. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Remember most men do
not need to love a woman, to desire her. Although there are men who would
prefer to lock themselves away to avoid the temptation of cheating with an
attractive female, who is basically being handed to them on a platter, there
are others who will definitely seize the opportunity. In some cases, it does
not mean he always wanted to cheat on his woman but here is a situation where
he didn’t even have to put any real effort into hunting.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> Here are some key things to note:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Not every man has the will power to refuse an attractive woman</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- Men are highly
visual beings. Even if a man loves you, it doesn’t mean he wont find other
women attractive. If a man feels a strong sexual desire for a woman who is
easily available to him, he rarely thinks about what will happen <u>after</u>
he gets with her. The prey came right into his hands and his first instinct is
normally to have the meal then deal with the repercussions afterward. It’s the depth of love and respect he has for
you, his principles, a genuine desire to not hurt you and will power that help
him remain loyal.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">2.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> <b>A good
girlfriend is a gem to have, but a girlfriend loving you, doesn’t mean she wont
be jealous of what you have</b>- There are some loyal girlfriends who would
never for a moment consider flirting with or trying to get with their friend’s
boyfriend/husband. However, there are many who certainly will, if the opportunity
presents itself. Ideally we would want a world where there are people who have
no room for certain feelings in their heart but every human being is capable of
feelings of jealousy and envy. For women, that includes being jealous of the
man in your life, especially if he treats you well.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">3.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Establish boundaries with females who stay over at your house</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">—if a female friend or
relative is visiting for an extended period, be sure to have a talk with them
before the first night they stay over. Let them understand what you expect in
terms of how they present themselves around your spouse. Nothing is wrong with
telling them that revealing clothes should not be worn in the presence of your
spouse. It’s your house. Anyone who visits should respect your rules. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">4.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Don’t be an enabler to your own peril--- </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">There are women who
have a very trusting relationship with their female friends and feel very
comfortable about them spending time alone with their spouse<b>. </b>Some women even ask their girlfriends
to accompany their boyfriend to places, without them. Depending on the level of
trust that exists between yourself and your partner and yourself and your
friend, there might not be any reason to think this could backfire. But be
mindful that the more time a person spends in the company of another, the
greater the bond they develop, so don’t get too comfortable with this practice.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">5.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">You don’t need to be Matlock but you need to be wise -</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> A man is an adult and
if he values what he has with you, you shouldn’t have to go out of your way to
keep him from slipping up. This is the logical view, but the truth is that we
are imperfect beings seeking a perfect relationship which is just not possible
so a smart woman will not set herself and her relationship up for drama. Men
know how other men think and that is why most are wary of even their own
friends being alone with their women. A woman should start thinking like a man
when it comes to protecting what she has. Simply put, no female associate
whether it is a close friend, colleague or relative, should be left alone with
your man for any extended period…especially if she isn’t in a happy
relationship. Don’t rub butter in puss mouth.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-73010711613428868342016-10-05T07:39:00.002-07:002016-10-05T07:41:26.191-07:00How to Remain Standing after a Messy Break up<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 15.95pt; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; tab-stops: 45.8pt 91.6pt 137.4pt 183.2pt 229.0pt 274.8pt 320.6pt 366.4pt 412.2pt 458.0pt 503.8pt 549.6pt 595.4pt 641.2pt 687.0pt 732.8pt;">
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point experience anger at another person but the breakup of a </span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">relationship is one of
the biggest tests of how well we can control negative emotions, especially
feelings of anger and rejection. When people are angry, when they feel they
have been wronged and are struggling with rejection, be prepared for anything.</span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">If you’ve been through
a breakup, depending on the kind of person your ex is, you may have experienced
the wrath of your one time love, including attempts at character assassination.
When a person has nothing good to say about their ex, question their motive.
They must have seen something good in that person at some point throughout the
relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Whilst an angry ex can
do damage to your reputation, if you remain true to yourself and do not try to
match them for each low blow, you will come out standing. There are several
reasons why an angry ex will launch an attack on you:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">They want to demonize and reduce you in the
eyes of persons who thought highly of you</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">--- Your ex is angry, feeling rejected and
perhaps determined to make you a pariah. Whatever they can do to achieve that
objective, they will so don’t be surprised when persons you’ve never discussed
your personal affairs with, approach you with unpleasant rumours they have
heard and are seeking clarification about your personal life.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">They want to cut off your support system</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">—An angry ex feels wronged. They want everybody
on their side so the objective is to get as many of your friends as possible to
buy into the negative story and turn against you. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">They want to control you</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">—although they can’t physically control you,
an angry ex can still use psychology and manipulation to control your life. For
instance, spreading rumours that you are a bad person can force you to begin
walking on egg shells even though you know you are not that ‘bad’ person whom
they seek to portray you as. By so doing, you hand over your power to them and
they are able to control how you live your life.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 115%;">You might want to consider the following approach to handling a
messy break up:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 115%;">1.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 115%;"><b>No matter what your ex
says about you, don’t let him/her control your reaction.</b> If you are a good and
decent person who does not curse out people, don’t allow anyone to cause you to
behave in a manner that will make you feel bad about yourself afterwards. Your
ex’s objective is to draw you out. Your objective should be to maintain your
standards in the face of the onslaught. Never allow someone to cause you to
behave out of character.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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filter the emails and texts from your ex. If you are the type who is easy to
get angry when people accuse you wrongfully, get a close trusted friend to
filter the communication between yourself and your ex. They can read and tell
you what’s worth discarding immediately versus what you need to respond to. If
there is no compelling reason to read the emails or texts, such as matters to
do with children you might share, do not even bother to read them. If it’s a
really bad situation that is affecting your peace of mind, you might want to
consider taking it a step further and blocking the person’s emails, phone calls
and blocking them on social media.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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leave anything to chance when you are dealing with an angry ex and that
includes access to your emails or social media accounts. Change your password
and ensure you do not use any password your ex is likely to associate with you.
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accepting friend requests from strange people on Facebook and other social
media platforms and under no circumstances should you blindly accept
invitations to date strangers or persons you communicate with only through
social media. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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date you</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 115%;">. One of the biggest mistakes someone who’ve had a messy
break-up could make is to send out naked photos and videos of themselves. You
never know who is trying to get that kind of material to use against you and
the lengths to which they will go to get their hands on it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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who is trying to destroy you is one of the most effective ways of making them
feel they are wasting their time. Your ex’s intention is to make your life miserable.
When you laugh about their antics rather than cry it shows your strength and
confuses them in the same way the devil is confused when you praise in the
midst of the storm. However, be mindful that when some persons realize that
their actions are not having the desired effect on you, they are likely to turn
up the heat so be very watchful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 115%;">The key to remaining on your feet in the midst of attacks from a
disgruntled ex is to know who you are, remain in control of your emotions and
never allow another person to cause you to do or say anything that is out of
character. One day, they will get tired and throw in the towel. When that
happens you should be able to walk in public without feeling ashamed of your
behavior throughout the storm.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-49756451994674888742016-09-16T07:02:00.002-07:002016-09-16T07:02:42.486-07:005 Things a Man Should Know About an Independent Woman<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">More and more women
are earning degrees, launching into business ventures and holding down jobs
that allow them to be financially independent. However, a significant number of
these women are struggling to find good partners who can comfortably handle their
independence for a successful relationship. Sometimes the attitude of an
independent woman is the main reason she is unable to have a successful
relationship, however, men are also doing a number of things wrong, as it
relates to relationships with a woman who can hold her own financially.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Here are a few things
a man should know about a woman who can hold her own financially.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">1.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A confident man is very attractive</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">--- Men appear to be easily intimidated by
women who don’t need them to be their main provider. However, confidence and
ambition can go a far way for a man who wants to capture the heart of an
independent woman. A man who has no money in his pocket but has loads of confidence,
drive and ambition, can get further with an independent woman than a man who
has some money but isn’t confident when he is around her. The key to getting
this kind of woman to consider you worthy is your confidence and how you treat
her.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">2.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">She still wants a man who can back her up </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">-- Financial security
carries a heavy weighting among things women want in their relationships but, being
able to take care of herself doesn’t mean an independent woman wants a man who
is unable to pull his weight in the relationship. Whilst she can afford to pay
her own bills, this kind of woman still wants to know that a man is willing to
contribute to her life in a tangible way. While she might not expect you to pay
her rent, mortgage or utilities, she has hopes that you will be supportive and step
up in other ways. If she always has to pay the bills on dates it can become
tiring, so don’t sit back and wait for her to take out her purse every time you
go out. She still wants gifts, she still wants to feel like a woman, she still
wants to feel your impact in her life so step forward and do what you can or
she will eventually lose respect for you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">3.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Don’t allow her success to intimidate you-</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> Unless she is self-centered,
most independent women do not want someone who fawns over them. She wants your
respect and admiration but don’t act like you are star struck over her
achievements. These women are often leaders, they are used to getting things
done so they admire strong confident men who compliment those traits. The best
way to get this kind of woman to take you seriously is to acknowledge her
uniqueness but be confident in yourself as being deserving of her. Don’t tell
her things like “I don’t deserve you or ask questions such as “What do you see
in me?” Show her the value you bring to her life and be confident that you are
what she needs.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">4.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Be the man in the relationship</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> - Some independent women can be head strong
mainly because they are used to holding their own. She possibly got to where
she is without depending on a man. The mistake some men make with these women
is they refuse to be the man in the relationship. They sit back and wait for
her to lead in every way when they should take charge of certain things without
being controlling. Don’t wait for her to come up with solutions to every
challenge you have, step out and lead. If you demonstrate that you are mentally
strong and that she can trust you to resolve issues, she will have the
confidence to let go of the desire to always lead. If you fail to be the man in
the relationship, she might lose respect for you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">5.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Make her feel like the woman in the relationship</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">—No matter how tough
an independent woman appears to be, it is quite likely that she still wants to
be treated like a kitten outside of work mode. No man is an island so an independent women
also wants companionship and balance in her life. Treat her like she’s the
woman in the relationship and romance her. Stop seeing her as this strong woman
who doesn’t need you. Show her that she can rely on you to bring her comfort
and be her rock when she doesn’t feel strong. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a communications specialist, motivational speaker and founder of the
women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment &
Restoration. (SUPHER). </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><i> Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. </i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-76848651328523230582016-09-04T18:19:00.000-07:002016-09-04T18:19:24.933-07:00The Lure of the Married Man, Why Women Go There<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The story of the other
woman is an age old one which continues to play out with little sign of
cessation despite the fact that society frowns upon the other woman in no
uncertain terms.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">While men often get a
slap on the wrist for their infidelity, the woman gets something that is more
comparable to a kick, one from which she sometimes never recovers especially if
she is a serial side chick. A woman who becomes involved with a married man is
taking a risk with her heart, her reputation and perhaps valuable time she will
never be able to get back. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Studies have shown that
only about 5% of married men leave their wives for the other woman and 93% of
married men who cheat will not admit the cheating to their wives. If caught, they
would rather throw the other woman under the bus because they do not want to
risk what they have invested in their marriage. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">So, despite the
evidence of losses being more than gains, why do some women get involved and keep
holding onto relationships with their married lovers? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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provide for them. A woman who wants some extra financial help without
committing to domestic life finds the perfect candidate in a married man who
can give her that support without her having to take on the responsibilities of
a wife. The man wants to keep his wife and he also wants to have the other
woman available to him when he needs her so both are playing the game to their
benefit.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">2.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">She got sucked in and believes he will leave his wife</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">- A woman can start
out by being a sounding board for a man who claims to be in an unhappy
marriage. He will share with her more and more details of what is wrong in his
marriage and if she is not careful, she eventually begins to see herself as the
solution to his problems especially if he has expressed interest in her. A
woman might believe she can rescue an unhappily married man from his ‘evil’
wife. A woman in this situation should be mindful that a lot of married men
will not tell you the whole truth about the state of things in their marriage,
worse if he is interested in her. Marriages have there down periods so a woman
should not blindly believe that a married man will leave his wife for her. Despite
his marital problems, it is highly likely that he and his wife still share a
bed. You can give a listening ear but don’t become the sole sounding board.
It’s best to refer him to a counselor before you get sucked in and the years
pass you by, waiting for him to leave his wife.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">3.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">She doesn’t want a husband</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">—She could be a single woman who has no
interest in getting married or having children. She wants the sex, gifts and
companionship without the responsibility of caring for a man, household and
family. There is a growing number of women who can provide for themselves who
see a married man as the answer to their sexual and companionship needs.</span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt;"> </span></div>
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life is often not emotionally stable enough to make wise relationship
decisions. She could be dealing with a broken relationship, divorce or some
other emotionally challenging situation. A woman in any of these situations is vulnerable
and will attract the wrong men as her vision is likely short sighted. She wants
immediate attention and affection to soothe her pain thus she is an easy prey
for the man who knows this and is willing to provide it in order to get close
to her. This opens the door for unhealthy relationships including with the married
man who knows how to treat a woman well but wants something other than a
committed relationship.</span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Helvetica;">5.<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Generational curse/She’s a serial side chick---</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Some women simply do
not want a man of their own. There is something about a married man that
appeals to them so a cycle develops overtime where she moves from one married
man to another. There can be a spiritual side to this behavior (generational
curse), but not everyone will accept that a woman who has serial relationships
with married men has a spiritual problem. They would rather label her a
homewrecker and give her a whipping if they can.</span></div>
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became involved with men whom they had no idea were married until the wife
finds out and contact them. The difficulty for some of these women is that they
are now emotionally attached to the man and despite knowing that he is not
available, they find it difficult to let go of the relationship. This is when
the man will tell them what they want to hear in order to keep them hanging on
and hoping he will eventually leave his wife. Although some men do leave their
wives, most rarely do.</span></div>
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used to getting what they want and they apply the same mindset to getting a
man. If she sees a man she wants, it matters not if he is married. She is used
to winning so she will go after him just to prove to herself that she can get
him. This is where the tables might turn in terms of her showering him with
gifts to prove she can take care of him better than his wife.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Women have to be
vigilant in finding out whether a man is already taken because a lot of married
men do conceal their marital status from other women they are seeking to get
involved with. A woman needs to know where the man lives, be allowed to visit
his home after a reasonable period of dating, know where he works and at least
know his friends, if not his family. A smart woman will also seek to see a
man’s ID as soon as possible after they meet.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a communications specialist, motivational speaker and founder of the
women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment &
Restoration. (SUPHER). Keep up with her on </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/"><i>http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/</i></a><i> or follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </i><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-45246156804428777182016-08-25T08:35:00.002-07:002017-01-22T06:47:54.380-08:007 Things a Woman Really Needs In a Man<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 15.95pt; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0cm; tab-stops: 45.8pt 91.6pt 137.4pt 183.2pt 229.0pt 274.8pt 320.6pt 366.4pt 412.2pt 458.0pt 503.8pt 549.6pt 595.4pt 641.2pt 687.0pt 732.8pt;">
<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">As women, we sometimes
believe we have it well thought through in terms of what we <i>want </i>in</span></div>
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a man, but we often overlook
something very important—the things we really <i>need in a man. </i>Whilst a woman might not want anyone to tell her
what kind of man she should be with, certain toxic patterns call for self-reflection.
For instance, you tell yourself that you want a certain kind of man, yet
despite being constantly lucky in finding that kind of man, the relationships
simply do not work.<o:p></o:p><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">If you constantly go
for the handsome, career guy who is financially secure, yet you have to compete
relentlessly with other women for his attention, and he has little time to
spend with you, you might want to look at needs versus wants. Perhaps you want these types of men but they are
not meeting your needs and you really need a guy who is less focused on
climbing the corporate ladder, one is able to invest more time into building
the relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Your man doesn’t need
to be handsome for your relationship to work, hence good looks isn’t a need. Needs
are required for your overall well-being, they are like the oxygen in your
relationship, wants aren’t necessarily so. However, we tend to become more
caught up with what we want, rather than what we need. Wants tend to be
superficial, while needs are more substance. In relationships, misunderstanding your needs can
make a significant difference between happiness and a life of misery. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Here are seven things a
woman really needs in a man.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who makes time for her--- <span style="text-transform: uppercase;"> A </span></span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">woman wants attention and quality time with her
man. A man who does not spend time with his woman ignores her to his own peril.
Regardless of how well he provides for her, if he does not take care of her
emotional needs, the relationship is at risk. A man who makes time to do things
with his woman is a keeper. What she
will never forget is if you cancel something else just to spend time with her. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who will talk and listen --- </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Men in general do not like to sit and talk or listen
to their women for too long but guess what? She needs you to talk and listen so
make the time. Women like to express themselves verbally. When a man sits and
listens to what she has to say, it means a lot to her and don’t be trying to
watch your favourite game at the same time she is speaking with you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who respects and appreciates her---</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;"> A woman’s work is never done. Whether it is being
a fulltime stay at home mom, or trying to juggle her career and taking care of
the kids while ensuring her man’s needs are taken care of, it’s a lot of
work. Women need to feel respected and appreciated.
A man doesn’t have to tell his woman ‘I love you’ every day but ensure she
knows by your actions, that you respect and appreciate her. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who understands the importance of
financial security</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">---he doesn’t have to be rich but a woman needs a man who takes
seriously his role as a provider. Whether or not his woman is earning her own
money, a woman needs a man who values taking care of his household.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who never stops romancing her</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">--- Long after the courtship is over, a woman
still wants to be romanced by her man. Send her little love notes, romantic text
messages in the middle of the work day, or just a simple ‘how’s your day
going?’ to show her you are thinking about her.
Whatsapp her a song that sums up how you feel about her, have flowers
delivered to her at work, these are all little romantic gestures that women
need from a man. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who isn’t afraid to show emotions</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">—There are some men who will never tell his
woman I love you. He might do the things to make her comfortable but stays away
from doing the things that he thinks makes him appear ‘soft’. The simple fact
is some men are not comfortable expressing love sometimes because of how they
were brought up. However women need to feel loved. Show her you love her and do
not be afraid to tell her too. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">A man who will protect her</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">—Women like to have a sense of being secure so
they like to know that their men can and
will protect them. A woman wants to know that if a situation arises, her man
will not run away and leave her to fend for herself. A woman needs a man in
whom she can have that kind of confidence. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Motivational Speaker, Communications Specialist, award-winning
journalist and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer,
Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR
Girl. Email marieberbick@gmail.com<o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-44519889963365703452016-08-20T07:59:00.000-07:002016-08-20T08:18:03.533-07:00Should You Tell Your Partner Everything About Your Past?<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 14.25pt; margin-bottom: 10.5pt; margin-left: 0cm; margin-right: 0cm; margin-top: 10.5pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">Openness and honesty are essential
ingredients for a great relationship but being in love, or thinking that we are
in love can cause us to do some unwise things, including spilling every detail
about our lives to that person we think we are in love with. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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their young giddy headed days but some things should be left where they are,
not carried over to stir up unnecessary problems in your current relationship. Whilst
keeping secrets is not to be encouraged in any relationship, there are some
things about your PAST that you do not NEED to tell your partner, here’s why.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">If it’s not necessary, you don’t need
to share it</span></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">—If the information
has no bearing on your current relationship and is likely to stir up
unnecessary jealousy and insecurity on the part of your partner, keep your
mouth closed. In some instances, certain information is necessary for you to
share. For example, if you have a criminal past, or you’ve had a medical
procedure done in the past, which is affecting your ability to have children
with your current partner, this is not information you should keep from your
partner. If you are about to introduce your partner to a previous lover for business or other purposes, tell him/her you were once involved with this person or your secret could come back to haunt you. These are things you should not keep your partner in the dark about.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;"> However, if you cheated in a previous relationship, you have
never cheated on your current partner and have a great relationship going with no interest in cheating, what’s
the purpose of telling your partner you cheated in a previous relationship? Not
every man can handle certain information, even if it’s from your past. Your unnecessary
confession could do more harm than good to your current relationship.</span></div>
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</span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">Raging hormones can cause you to not
think rationally</span></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">—When we feel like we are in love, we are likely to make decisions with
our heart and not our head. One of the biggest mistakes particularly women make
is to let loose after a good sex session.
When oxytocin is released during lovemaking, that feeling of attachment
is very high. Unfortunately, that is when a lot of women throw caution to the
wind and begin to talk like parrots about their past. Sex can be just a
physical act, with no emotional attachment, especially for men, so think before
you speak.</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; line-height: 14.25pt;"> </span></div>
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</span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">People get into relationships for
various reasons</span></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">: Not everybody is with their partner because they love and want to
share the rest of their lives with them. People get into relationships for all
kinds of selfish reasons so don't be too quick to share too much, too soon. Not
all relationships end well and sometimes a jilted lover can become your worse
nightmare if they decide to use what you’ve told them against you.</span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; line-height: 14.25pt;"> </span></div>
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</span></span></b><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">If the relationship is still young,
share only what he/she NEEDs to know</span></b><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">---Everyone deserves to know who they are getting involved with but you
can date someone for months and still not KNOW that person. You can also be
open and honest without being naïve. If you have not spent enough time together
for you to determine that you can trust the person, be careful how much you share.
People can be vindictive when things don’t work out.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif;">Love is a wonderful
thing and the high that comes from being in love is an incredible feeling but
keep your head firmly screwed onto your body. Be wise when it comes to
information about your past. Think before you spill.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i>Marie Berbick is a
communications specialist, motivational speaker and founder of the women’s
ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration.
(SUPHER). Keep up with her on </i><a href="http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/"><i>http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/</i></a><i> or follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </i><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0-2obSR1Mcyh6z4-68eh1MFsGLNlUxmwp1-rzQau0XkgHFeCklcZ_HCvaF_XSm48-fKvI9jJB8MQjN9Nm1Qcvs0c_l2l7hSvK-I7bdQAphCMtsYn-druOJC7xZAUmLfAKJ7cH0cyQmHA/s1600/11082624_10153242307813552_8288779261608493799_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0-2obSR1Mcyh6z4-68eh1MFsGLNlUxmwp1-rzQau0XkgHFeCklcZ_HCvaF_XSm48-fKvI9jJB8MQjN9Nm1Qcvs0c_l2l7hSvK-I7bdQAphCMtsYn-druOJC7xZAUmLfAKJ7cH0cyQmHA/s320/11082624_10153242307813552_8288779261608493799_n.jpg" width="180" /></a><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">So you’re now officially over…the relationship or marriage many people including
yourself thought was made in Heaven wasn’t really so after all and now you are
dealing with the estranged spouse from
hell who is determined to make you feel the heat. It is often said that hell
hath no fury like a woman scorned but truthfully, it goes both ways! Unless
your partner is a reasonable person, separation or divorce can expose you to
some deeply unpleasant moments. It is perhaps very true that if you really want
to know the person you marry, try divorcing them!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Here are some life lessons that you can apply
in dealing with divorce or separation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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move out of your matrimonial home, especially if you have children. Unless your
life is being threatened and you feel unsafe, stay in your home. If your spouse
is abusive, get a protection and an occupation order and stay in your home with
your children. If you are the type who sweeps incidences of physical abuse
under the carpet because you are ashamed, and do not want your friends and
family to know—stop it. Report those incidents of abuse to the police and
ensure you receive a receipt at the police station. If you have had to seek
medical attention, request a report from the doctor and also keep your medical
expense receipts. These receipts will assist you in applying for a protection
order if necessary as they will demonstrate to the court, your partner’s
history of abusive behaviour. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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custody matters are before the court. It is imperative that you choose a lawyer
who is experienced in family matters and is interested in bringing closure to
your matters as quickly as possible. Whilst it is good to have a lawyer who
will put up a good fight in your interest, especially if your divorce is
contentious, it is also very important that the lawyer is interested in getting
closure as soon as possible, especially if children are involved. Failing that, you will likely find yourself
before the court for a long time, in a drawn out and expensive divorce battle.
The money you end up spending could have comfortably helped you to start over. Last
year I met a man who is now broken in many ways— after more than 80 court appearances in a bitter 10 year divorce and custody battle.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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separation can be very difficult for the adults involved so think for a moment
what it does to the children who are caught in the middle. Bitter spouses often
use the children to get back at each other. Either the mother seeks to deprive
the father of time with the children or it’s the other way around. One of the
most irresponsible acts that couples in bitter divorces are sometimes guilty of
is manipulation of the children where either the mother sets up the children against
the father or the father sets the children up against the mother. What’s even
worse is when one party falsely accuses the other of child abuse in an effort
to gain custody. This can be a most demoralizing experience for the party who
is falsely accused and if you are not strong you might even consider throwing
up your hands, packing your bags and getting on the plane! If you do have a
legitimate case of child abuse against your spouse, that is different but
falsely accusing one’s spouse of child abuse during a custody battle is far
more popular than we think according to the Office of the Children’s Registry.
I can attest that without a good support system, you can crumble from the shame
and stress. A professional colleague in
a prominent position who was falsely accused of child abuse by her estranged
husband, described her experience as “some of the lowest moments of my life”
after social workers showed up at her home and her children’s school numerous
times and her estranged husband showed up at her office to berate her, claiming
credit for her success. She had to get a protection order against him. If there
is a genuine need for you to act to protect your children, do so, but if you
are guilty of using your children as pawns in your divorce mess, you are doing
serious damage to them. Think about your
pain, multiply it by double digits and that’s the pain your children are
experiencing. Stop it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Mediation is far less expensive than a long, bitter court battle over things
you could easily sit at a table and discuss with a mediator and agree on. Mind
you, there are bitter spouses who are so determined to get at the other party
that they refuse to consider mediation. However, always recommend to your
spouse, the mediation route and if they insist on going to court, at least you
did try so pray, put on your spiritual armour and feel confident that favour is
with you as you are not personally fighting that battle.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">5.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">5. Keep all matters in one court</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">—Your divorce
is filed in the Supreme Court. As best as possible try to have all matters
(maintenance and custody if applicable) heard in the same court. Having custody
and maintenance heard separately in the Family Court can delay your divorce
especially if these matters are contentious. If your spouse is the spiteful
type they can also purposefully use a battle for custody of the children to
delay the divorce. Remember, if the Supreme Court is not satisfied regarding the
custody and welfare of your children, your divorce will not be granted. One of
the challenges with the Family Court is that your matters can come before different judges each time you appear and
this can delay a resolution in those matters as a judge who is new in the
matter, needs to ensure that due diligence is done. Consequently you can find
your matter going around in circles for quite sometime. I personally almost
lost count of the judges who heard my matters in the Family Court.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">6.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">6. Be fair and don’t be blinded by vindictiveness— </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">As much as you might feel that you despise your estranged
husband, don’t allow your anger to blind you. When we are angry, we cannot
think rationally and many people go through their divorce with so much anger
and bitterness that winning is all that matters and that means taking everything
and leaving the other person with nothing. Wrong approach. Ask for what you are
entitled to, but don’t try to prevent the other person from getting what they
too are entitled to. People spend years acquiring assets and depending what age
you are at when you separate or divorce, it could take many more years to
rebuild. Your spouse deserves to have something too. Men, your ex-wife might
not be your favourite person but she is still the mother of your children. Do
not try to force her out in the street with your children. Familiarize yourself with the pieces of
legislation that are relevant in divorce cases, including the Property (Rights
of Spouses) Act 2004. Knowledge of these laws and their interpretations will
help you to make realistic decisions about whether you really want to go through
a long bitter divorce battle rather than sit at a table like mature adults,
work out differences, split assetts and peacefully go your separate ways. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). <o:p></o:p></span></i></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-37494098476944236182016-07-18T07:23:00.000-07:002016-07-18T07:23:41.707-07:00When the Relationship Exists Only in your Head <div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 21.0pt;">
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the man we are supposedly in the relationship with, sees things very
differently. Most women like to know a man is not afraid to commit. In their
hurry to get him to commit, they commit him themselves. Everything might even
seem normal in terms of being seen together publicly, going out on dates and
spending time together. However, this is no guarantee that you are in fact in a
relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">You can date
someone for months and still not be in a relationship.<b> </b>The mistake women make sometimes, is that they automatically
assume that once they have been seeing someone for a few weeks or even months,
they occupy the position of girlfriend. They quickly change their Facebook
status to ‘in a relationship’ and close the door on other prospects without
having a frank discussion with the man to ensure he is on the same page. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Some men will
date a woman without committing to a relationship, for as long as she allows
it. Ask the frank questions up front, what is he looking for? What does he like
about you? Does he see you as the woman he could spend the rest of his life
with? Is he dating other persons or is this something exclusive and serious? <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Social Media
has become one of the most popular facilitators of ‘fantasy’ relationships. Although
Social media has enabled some persons to meet their ideal partners it has also provided men and women with
opportunities to lead others down an empty road, into ‘relationships’, that one
party sometimes knows doesn’t exist but the other is totally unaware.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"> For example, you’ve ‘met’ someone via social
media. You are yet to see them in person but you text, voice note and video call
every day. It feels wonderful just like a normal relationship, with all the
emojis, love hearts and roses you received via texting. In your mind, you have
a relationship with this person and even tell others that you have a
boyfriend/girlfriend. Months down the road, you finally meet this person and
realize that things were not as you thought. The person is either married,
attached or single but not in a relationship with YOU.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This is
happening more regularly these days as a wider pool of persons become
accessible to us thanks to communication technology, particularly via social
media. I’ve said before that some persons would be shocked if they were to get
a glimpse of their partner’s mobile phone, the number of persons they interact
with in a romantic way. The truth is that many of these people are living out a
fantasy because their situation might be such that they cannot be in a real
relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Here are some
situations where the relationship exists only in your head.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #1d2129;">1.<span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="color: #1d2129;">Some persons are married and bored</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129;">: The person
you are communicating with is perhaps married but bored in their marriage. They
have no intention of leaving their spouse but need a little oomph or excitement
to help them through the slump. The easiest way to get someone to come for this
ride with them is via social media. If
the person texts, voicenotes or speaks to you only during the day time, often
has to abruptly end conversations and you can never video call them, those are
red flags. They are quite likely married or in a committed relationship and
you’re their fantasy partner.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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as it may be, a relationship cannot be sustained by texting. Two people who are
seriously interested in each other need to talk to each other, see each other,
spend time with each other, do things together. There are persons who are
pretty comfortable texting but clam up the moment the thought of an actual
voice conversation is raised. If this happens, don’t even bother to waste your
time. You are not in a relationship. The person needs a text buddy to pass time
with.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #1d2129;">3.<span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="color: #1d2129;">He/she sends you mainly sexually explicit messages:
</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129;">If you ‘meet’ someone via social media, they ‘like’ or comment only on those
photos in which you are skimpily attired and sends you endless photos of
themselves nude or in states of undress, they are interested in a sex buddy,
not a relationship. It doesn’t matter how long you have been communicating with
them, how many times they have told you how beautiful you are and how flattered
you are by the attention. It doesn’t matter how nice a guy he seems. If their interest is centered around
exchanging nude photos and they have never invited you on a date, you are
likely dealing with a pervert, not someone who wants a relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #1d2129;">4.<span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="color: #1d2129;">He is never available to do the things that matter:</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129;"> If you are
seeing someone who is available for sex but does not make himself available to
do with you, the things a normal couple would do together, you are not in a
relationship. If you have children and he has never made time to meet them,
interact with them, never accompanied you to do some shopping, never sat down
and ate a meal you have prepared, never calls you to check how you are after
some heavy rain, never sought to go get you some Panadol if you have a
headache, never volunteered to take your car to the car wash, simple things
like these that a man in a relationship would do for his lady, don’t fool
yourself. You are not in a relationship. What you have is an unspoken
arrangement to provide each other with sex.</span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: #1d2129;"><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"> Don’t be afraid to ask outright, where you stand.
You will save yourself the heartache that comes with finding out later, that
what you thought was a relationship, existed only in YOUR mind.</span></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters
United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Keep up
with her on </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/"><i>http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/</i></a><i> or follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </i><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-21192226783844053722016-07-10T18:26:00.000-07:002016-07-10T18:28:51.043-07:00When His Family Isn’t Into You<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">A woman who is in a
relationship with a man whose family doesn’t fancy her is normally forced to
fight for acceptance. But should she even bother with trying to win their
acceptance? Does it matter if his family likes you or not? A decision to fight
for acceptance or approval is totally up to you. It certainly makes things less
stressful for the relationship when his family likes you but some women
couldn’t care less. As long as the man is happy with her, she is good, after
all she isn’t marrying his family? Or is she? However you wish to look at it,
once you are in that man’s life, you will be affected if his family isn’t into
you. How yourself and your partner deal with it, determine the longevity of
your relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">The struggle for
acceptance is not limited to the women either. While women want to be accepted
by their man’s family, men also want to be accepted by their lady’s family. For
the women, if the man is close to his mother, winning the heart of the mother-in-law
is important, for if mama isn’t into you, your goose is cooked. On the other hand, the men want to win over
their woman’s dad who is often the one that gives them the hardest time. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">It is very helpful
when a woman who finds herself in an unwelcoming family, has a man with
backbone. Whilst some men will try their best to remain balanced in these
situations, it is very difficult not to choose sides. Some will ostracize their
family in support of the woman in their life, others will often defend their
family when the frustrated girlfriend lashes out at them and this can cause
serious tension and disquiet in the relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">How much does it
matter if the man’s family is into you or not? As long as you are both happy,
who cares what his family thinks of you? Some men definitely do not see it this
way.. After a good talk with some male friends about how a man handles
situations where his family isn’t into his lady, it became evident that for
most of them who are close to their families, they do want their family to like
their lady. It makes for a more peaceful life.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">My younger brother is
one of those men who is deeply analytic and very mature in his approach to life
and relationships. He recently got married and couldn’t hide his delight at the
fact that all his sisters and his mom liked his bride! “All my sisters like my
lady. Means I made a good choice for my sisters are very critical,” he boasted
on Facebook.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Some men, for a
peaceful life will keep the woman in his life away from his family because he
is often able to tell from the get go, that they aren’t going to like her. The
last thing a man wants is to be forced to choose between his girl and his
family. Some men will hide the woman they are dating because they know their family
will not like her and they do take the opinions of not only their mothers but
also their sisters seriously when it comes to assessing their lady. My brother
shared that he especially pays attention to how his sisters view the woman
because women typically are able to detect some things in another woman that a
man won’t. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">While some women are
blessed with having a great relationship with their man’s family, some aren’t,
so here are some insights that could help a woman manage the situation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">1<b> A man does not like to choose between his woman and his family</b>. –He
might love you dearly but he does not want to choose between you and his family
so as best as possible, be respectful to his family regardless of how they
behave toward you. If you take the high ground, he will have even more reason
to be proud of his choice of woman and quite possibly, one day his family will
realize that you too are deserving of their respect.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">2<b>. Some men will purposefully keep his woman away from his family to
avoid conflict</b>—Sometimes a man will keep you away from his family, not because
he wants to hide the relationship but because he is protecting you. Some men
know their families very well and when they find a woman whom they know will
not meet their approval, he might simply opt to keep you away from the
firestorm<b>. </b>He might not readily
admit it but some men are actually not proud of their family’s behaviour and he
might be trying to save both of you from embarrassment by keeping you away. Just ensure that he explains clearly why he
keeps you away from his family.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">3.<b> Often it’s the females in his family who give you a hard time</b>—Women
are often very mean to each other and sometimes you do not need to do anything
for the man’s mother or sisters to dislike you. You have their son’s or
brother’s heart and that means you are a threat, especially if they share a
very close relationship. If you’ve been on your best behaviour, have treated
the man well and can’t figure out why his family dislikes you, it’s possible
they have no reason. Just keep being a good woman to the man, remain respectful
to his family and don’t talk bad about them, he won’t be happy about that.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">4. <b>Womens’ intuition is often correct<o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">You could quickly
dismiss what his mother or sisters think about you but he might not. Women are
pretty good at summing up each other so he could very well be watching keenly
to see if you will turn out to be who they might have told him you really are<b>. </b>Just be yourself and don’t wear a
mask to impress his family for the day will come when that mask comes off. <b><o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt;">Although a woman has
to be smart about her approach to dealing with a man’s family who might be
determined to make her life hell, the man also must show backbone in dealing
with the situation. Don’t allow your family to continually disrespect your lady
and if you know your mother is treating her unfairly, be a man and tell her so.
Be as balanced as possible and protect that woman who is looking after you and
your home. After all she is doing for you, some valuable things mama cannot do.
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email
</span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-78638025966377930092016-06-25T07:13:00.000-07:002016-06-25T07:30:52.043-07:00Plan Your Way Out of an Abusive Relationship<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">There are so many women in abusive relationships
that are suffering in silence. Many seem to want to get out but are fearful. I
noted in a recent article, three of the reasons women are fearful of leaving
abusive partners.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">These were, a genuine fear of their partners,
financial constraints and children. There are other reasons too including women
not wanting to give up assets and lifestyle. However, do not fool yourself,
stress kills! The material possessions
you refuse to leave might outlive you! Your happiness and peace of mind are
more important. One day you might very well wake up and
your once healthy body just ‘pop dung’ without explanation, or you have aged
significantly overnight. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">A woman who truly wants out of an abusive
relationship can break free if she wants it bad enough. She just needs to
identify the solution to whatever is keeping her from leaving, and plan her way
out.Children should not be the reason she remains in an abusive relationship. A child who grows up in abusive environment will quite likely replicate that behaviour with their partner in adulthood. Here are some things to consider
and possible strategies that can help you get out of an abusive relationship.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; line-height: 13.5pt;">1.<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><span style="text-indent: -18pt;"><b><span style="color: blue;">Face your fears and deal with them</span></b><span style="color: #333333;">—A woman who is constantly being beaten down physically or emotionally will eventually experience low self-esteem and battered woman’s syndrome. She will also become fearful of her abuser. To break free from that abusive environment, she has to face these fears head on and decide to tackle them. Start thinking solutions. This is my current situation, how do I get out? Start exploring the hows of your situation.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;">2.</span><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="color: #333333; white-space: pre;"> </span><b><span style="color: blue;">Reach out to someone</span></b><span style="color: #333333;">—Some women are too ashamed of their situation to talk to anyone about it but there are many more women like yourself out there. The moment you decide to tell someone, you will realize just how many others are in a similar situation but are too afraid or ashamed to speak about it. It is imperative that a woman who is seeking to break free from an abusive relationship, gets support. If you don’t have a close friend or relative to confide in, find a support group or a women’s ministry at a church. You better believe that there are women in the church who are, or were in abusive relationships and can provide well needed advice and support. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;">5.</span><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="color: #333333; white-space: pre;"> </span><b><span style="color: blue;">Improve your skills to earn more</span></b><span style="color: #333333;"> -- The idea is to eliminate the financial dependence that is preventing you from leaving the relationship. It is imperative that you recognize what skills you have that you can utilize to earn extra income. Can you earn the kind of money that you need to take care of yourself, using the skills you currently have? If you can't earn it with your current skills, what other skills can you learn in a short time, that can earn you extra money? How much will these personal improvements cost you and how long will it take to complete the training? Remember you are working with short term now. Find a short course you can do that will help you make extra money. It could be makeup and skin care, nails, wig making, weaving, floral design, something you can do in 6 to 8 weeks and get a certificate. You could also type and format documents for companies and professionals if you have those skills or buy and sell items to start turning over some money.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;">6.</span><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="color: #333333; white-space: pre;"> </span><b><span style="color: blue;">Learn to defend yourself</span></b><span style="color: #333333;">—a woman who wants out of an abusive relationship must learn to defend herself and this is not karate. Self-defense helps her to take care of herself with simple but effective techniques that can ward off an attacker and save her life. A woman in an abusive relationship should consider acquiring those simple skills that can be pretty useful in such situations. You wont use this new found skill to become the aggressor but can you imagine the surprise on that man’s face when next he attacks you and ends up with a powerful uppercut that knocks the breath out of him? Self defense instructor Jerome Morgan is one of the best instructors out there who works with women and has a special programme for women who are or have been in abusive relationships. Contact him at archangel9mm@gmail.com or look him up on Facebook at Arch Angel.</span></span></div>
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United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Keep up
with her on </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/"><i>http://marieberbick.blogspot.com/</i></a><i> or follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </i><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-59166912396320993482016-06-20T08:15:00.000-07:002016-06-20T08:15:01.502-07:00 Returning to the Dating Scene After a Long Break? Here's a Checklist You Might Want to Consider<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Returning to dating
after a prolonged absence is almost like returning to study after a long break
from the classroom. Every skill that you need to effectively </span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-align: center;">play the dating
game feels rusty, especially if you were in a long term relationship. In fact,
it can feel like a “fish out of water” experience, with little or no idea how
to handle yourself now that you’re back on the market.</span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Once you recognize
your vulnerabilities, it’s time to purposefully seek to re-orientate yourself
or you can bet you will get played by men who know exactly where you are at
mentally. Re-orientation is necessary to help you understand the dynamics of
the current dating scene, because it is quite likely that a lot has changed
since you were busy being courted by your last long term partner.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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who goes into a marriage childless, has children during the course of the
marriage and divorces 10 years later, might find that her list of
characteristics that she is seeking in a man, will need some adjustment. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">It’s not a bad idea to
start your re-orientation based on a checklist which could include the
following:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">1<b> Be clear in your mind about what kind of relationship you want at this
stage of your life</b>. Do you want to just date, have someone with whom you
hang out and share quality time with no plans to settle or are you seeking
someone for a committed relationship? Sometimes people who have been burnt in
long term relationships never recover from the pain and carry with them the
fear of commitment and seeds of mistrust for the rest of their lives. These are
the people who might stick with just dating, no commitment. You must therefore
be clear about the kind of relationship you want and use that as a guide to
identify the right prospects. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> 2. <b>Develop
a realistic checklist of the characteristics that you are seeking in a new
partner</b>—If you are interested in finding a new long term partner, having a
realistic checklist of the qualities you are seeking in that partner is a good
idea. Note I said realistic because for women with children, it’s important
that he likes or can deal with your children. You might be single but you are a
package deal and some men do not want to have to deal with the package. Whilst
some men will date you because they find you very attractive, they might not
want to get serious because they are not interested in your children. So find
out from the beginning, whether he is the kind of man that can and wants to
deal with a woman who has children.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">3.<b> Talk to your friends who are dating</b>—One of the easiest ways to
re-orientate yourself with dating after a long term relationship, is to talk to
people who are single. Ask your responsible single friends to share tips with
you on how to handle yourself as you seek to start dating again. Male
colleagues can also be very useful in this regard. But, remember, not
everyone’s experience will be applicable to you so listen keenly and be smart
about your decisions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">4. <b>Does he have children and does he want
children with you?</b> The second time around comes with some serious
considerations and questions that you need to ask the prospective new partner.
You might have children from your previous relationship, but does he also have
kids and if not, does he want children and do YOU want more children?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">5<b>. Prepare yourself emotionally, mentally and otherwise—</b>A woman who
is still hurting from her previous relationship is not ready to take on a new
partner or you might end up hurting that person. Ensure that you are mentally
and emotionally ready, before putting yourself back on the market. You deserve
a healthy relationship so work on the personal things that contribute to a
healthy relationship before you begin dating again. This might mean getting
counseling about any unresolved issue that can affect a new relationship. You
can also use the time to work on yourself
physically if you think that losing a few pounds or changing your
hairstyle will help you feel energized. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">6. <b>Keep an open mind</b>—Don’t write off certain
prospects because of age ideals. For example, don’t close your mind to the
possibility of ending up with a younger man because you feel that they are not
mature enough. While younger men might come with a red flag over their heads,
there are some mature, responsible younger men out there who are actually looking
for a woman like you. Given the opportunity, they will turn out to be great partners,
who are responsible and mature.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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things that frustrate women who are re-entering the dating scene is how
difficult it is to actually find a good man. Bear in mind though, that if you
are the type who goes to work and possibly church and back home, it is unlikely
that you are exposed to enough new people to find a partner. So, start going
out, even once a month to places that you are likely to meet new people. This
also gives you the opportunity to re-orientate yourself with the dating scene
by observing keenly, the behaviour of men and women on a date. Get involved in
activities that take you outside of your little circle. Join professional
associations, do some charity work, travel if you can afford to and last but
not least, consider a reputable dating website that screens the prospects for
you, but proceed with caution.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
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Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-53445620034232121252016-06-11T16:11:00.001-07:002016-06-11T16:11:07.007-07:00Improve Your Chances at a Successful Relationship<div style="background-color: white; color: #666666; line-height: 20px; margin-bottom: 20px;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzZ5EqSodiA4oaqxw9yV3kFqB_bmVCm9sZK-6EBx1OZnWcKKBGHr9q0amYu0tlNaoBW532gnkLoFMVtBNNDyWJLAMp7zVTCLcPwtA5g_NrgJbhcdjjz9S7HdI548leK0eqrEXV_GaFkAQ/s1600/20160426_103921+%25281%2529.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhzZ5EqSodiA4oaqxw9yV3kFqB_bmVCm9sZK-6EBx1OZnWcKKBGHr9q0amYu0tlNaoBW532gnkLoFMVtBNNDyWJLAMp7zVTCLcPwtA5g_NrgJbhcdjjz9S7HdI548leK0eqrEXV_GaFkAQ/s320/20160426_103921+%25281%2529.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">SOME of the smartest women I know have made bad and continue to make bad choices when it comes to men. They are smart, intelligent and are successful in every aspect of their lives, except relationships. So if a sister can make good decisions in business and other areas of her life, why can't she get it right when it comes to choosing a man?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">A woman can be superb at managing her business because she understands that good business decisions are the practical ones made with the head. However, this same smart, intelligent woman might not be as good with managing her personal life because she makes those decisions solely with her heart.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Truthfully, women are emotional creatures, so when faced with relationship issues we tend to take an emotional approach to dealing with it and that's the basis of many of our problems. A woman, moreso a successful one, should not make decisions about choosing a partner based solely on her emotions. She has too much at stake.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Here are some lessons that a successful woman can apply to improve her chances of having a successful relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><strong><em>1. Leave the boss lady hat at work.</em></strong> Women who are successful are usually leaders. They are used to charting their own courses and having others follow. Leaders are used to giving orders or inspiring others. Unfortunately when it comes to relationships, one of the biggest mistakes successful women make is that they fail to transition from boss to wife or girlfriend when they get home. They go home expecting their partners to also follow their lead. Men have huge egos and whilst they may want an intelligent and driven woman, most men do not want to be ordered around by their women, so leave the boss lady hat at your place of business.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><strong><em>2. Allow the man to feel like he's in charge of the household.</em></strong> When a man tells you that you should allow him to wear the pants in the household, it can mean one of two things: Either you are purposefully or unconsciously trying to take over his role, or he's the insecure controlling type who feels threatened by your independence. Whatever it is, take note and do what is necessary to correct the situation. If it's the former, step back and support but allow him to lead. If it's the latter, you need to seriously assess whether you've landed one of the insecure, controlling types that you ought to say goodbye to as quickly as possible.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><em><strong>3. Support his dreams.</strong></em> Although you might be successful, your partner also needs to feel fulfilled. He might be proud of your accomplishments but those are YOUR accomplishments, not his. If he isn't as successful as you are, once you can see that he has drive and ambition, listen to his ideas, encourage him, give him advice and help him execute. If you don't work with your partner to achieve his dreams, he might just find another woman who is interested and supportive of his aspirations.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">4<em><strong>. Stop taking out your purse to pay for everything.</strong></em> There are some real gentlemen out there, but there are also some real gigolos who live off women who have some amount of spending power. There's nothing wrong with meeting a man halfway to pay on a date, but do not start off your relationship by exhibiting too much of the "independent woman" attitude. Some men are intimidated by women who are financially independent while some want your money. The man who is intimidated, once he realises that you like to pay your own way, if he was cultured to look after his lady financially, he might back off because he doesn't feel as though you need him. Men like to feel needed, so allow them to take care of the needs they can take care of.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><em><strong>5. Look out for the toy boy. </strong></em>He's usually drop-dead gorgeous, perhaps younger than you are, and his swag will have your friends and other women green with envy. However, there is one drawback-- he doesn't work and can't recall the last time he did. If you are a successful woman, unless this is the life you want to live, avoid these types of men at all costs. They are a recipe for your emotional meltdown.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><em><strong>6. Don't make a habit of having him drive your car. </strong></em>It is always nicer when your partner owns a car. However, the reality is that there are men who will court you who do not own a car. Allowing the man you are involved with to drive your car should be dependent on the stage of your relationship and how much you trust the man. Some men simply love to borrow your car, emergency or not. If it's just a man you are dating, and he doesn't own a car, ensure that you set some rules or you might just spot him driving one day with another woman's feet on your dashboard.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">If you are financially independent you can find a good man. Just bear in mind that although you might be in a better position financially, a man still needs to be treated with respect. Let him feel valued, needed and appreciated and be sure to set your own boundaries to eliminate the unwanted suitors.</span></div>
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Berbick is a motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters
United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her
on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-14683816787513102012016-06-10T08:31:00.000-07:002016-06-10T08:31:04.212-07:006 Things the Hurting Woman Can Do to Protect Herself<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Loneliness and the
need for companionship are among the toughest challenges for anyone who is
hurting, particularly someone who has just ended a relationship, or is going
through a separation or divorce.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In those down times,
some people may empathize with you, some will listen just to get a boost for
their own deflated egos, some will listen to see how they can use your moment
of weakness to their advantage, some will listen so that they can feel better
about their own lives which in some cases are even sadder than yours and some
will listen because they genuinely care and want to help.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">It is during that
break up period that you are quite likely to unconsciously disclose a lot of
information about yourself on social media that can help predators to target
you. Little clues about your relationship status and your state of mind can be
gathered from the statements you post, the kinds of photos of yourself that you
post, how frequently you post to your page and the times you post. For example persons who make posts at odd
hours of the night either work late shifts or they do not have a companion at
home —social media is their company at nights.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica",sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">If you are hurting or
going through a break-up, until you’ve developed the mental toughness and
learnt some key things that are necessary to protect you from predators, you
are an easy target. Men (likewise women) can discern when you are most
vulnerable. A divorced, separated or hurting woman is therefore like an
endangered species, especially if she isn’t the type who has close friends or
family to shield her. When you are going through relationship issues in
particular, you need to be cognizant of your weaknesses and put in place
protective measures for your welfare. Here are some tips for any hurting woman
who recognizes her vulnerabilities and wants to protect herself</span></div>
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<li><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"><b> </b></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><b>Have a support
system</b>---You need to surround yourself with people whom you can call and who
will listen when you need to vent. Your support system can include friends,
family, a formal support group, your pastor, ministers at church or a
professional therapist. There’s nothing wrong with asking for support.</span></li>
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are accountable to and who is assigned to watch your back</b>—When you are hurting,
you are very vulnerable…easy pickings for predators. Having a good friend in
whom you can confide totally is important not only for your emotional stability
but also your physical safety. That friend should know your whereabouts at any
time of the day and should be someone who is willingly to talk tough love to
you when necessary. This is the kind of person whom, if you tell him/her that
you are about to do something and they think it’s a stupid move, they are not
afraid to tell you that you are being stupid. This should be the friend who
will come take the wheels of your car,
if they see you spinning out of control</span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><b>Do not rely on the
support of male friends only</b>-- One thing a hurting woman should not do is
surround herself with only male friends when you are going through that break
up period. Long time friendships can be destroyed during that period of
vulnerability if you begin to rely heavily on your male friends only, for
support. Some will begin to get butterflies for you now that you are no longer
hitched. Some have wives or girlfriends who might not be comfortable with how
much time he spends comforting you and it takes very little sometimes for a
woman, or even a man, who is deeply wounded, to fall for that person who gives
well needed support and a listening ear
each time you want to vent.</span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"><b> </b></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><b>Find things to do that
will take your mind off your problems</b>—It is easy to slip into depression when
you are hurting. In low times, it’s easy
to have mood swings. One minute you are laughing with friends and the next
minute you suddenly tune them out as the sad memories roar in like a flood. Yes
it happens but if you purposefully focus on spending time with others, doing
things that you like, things that stir your passion, you are less likely to
have time to feel down.</span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -18pt;"><b>Manage your personal
time</b>--Put in place, an organized personal structure that guides how you use
your time. A lonely person is more likely to feel down or do something unwise
if they have too much time by themselves. While it is important to spend time meditating
for example, many people simply spend their alone time moping. Make a personal
timetable that accounts for emotionally healthy activities every hour of the
day including your sleep time.</span></li>
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---Often it isn’t until we are going through our lowest moments that we
discover a connection with God through prayer. The hurting man or woman, when
they feel like no one else cares, might reach out to God and that’s the
beginning of their spiritual connection. However, it is very real too that
people who are overwhelmed with problems, sometimes experience moments when
they simply cannot pray and do not want to hear about God. I have had my
moments and many friends admit they too have had those moments. What I can say
though, is that prayer works. If you pray consistently, make prayer a part of
your daily routine and stop trying to solve your issues by yourself, you will
see the results of those prayers.</span></li>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-31703356584319640692016-06-06T07:30:00.000-07:002016-06-06T07:30:12.921-07:005 Things to Help You Walk Away from a Toxic Relationship<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 21pt;">
<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">So you’re in a relationship that is draining you in every way. You spend more time worrying about your relationship than you do, enjoying it, yet still you can’t find the strength to just cut loose. Your story is not strange. In fact, you’d be surprised how many people are in relationships that are slowly draining them mentally, physically and emotionally, yet they remain in the situation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">There are people who are simply toxic in their relationships with others. These are people to be avoided. Do not be afraid to ask the hard questions when you meet someone who is interested in you. What’s their relationship history? Go out on dates and observe how they treat others and how they relate to their friends, family, and the people they claim to love. How they treat those they love is a good indicator of their interpretation of love and what you are likely to experience.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">If you’re serious about being able to avoid or getting out of a toxic relationship, you might find the following pointers useful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Symbol;">·<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Be honest with yourself about what you are seeing:</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> Being in a relationship that you’re struggling to make work, is sometimes like trying to squeeze toothpaste from an empty tube. You know it’s a humongous task to get the toothpaste out. Sometimes you squeeze until you can hear the air coming out the tube but you’re so steadfast in your belief that some where inside that tube, there’s some toothpaste that you keep squeezing the tube anyway, twisting it various ways in the hope that the toothpaste will eventually come out. Relationships can be very exciting but walk in with your eyes open and don’t see something that isn’t there simply because you so badly want it to work.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Symbol;">·<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Establish boundaries in your relationships:</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> We tell people how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. If someone sees that you are willing to accept bad treatment, they have no reason to treat you well. In a relationship, there are two imperfect people trying to somehow have a ‘perfect’ life so things will not always be great. However, relationships must have boundaries and when you fail to impress upon your partner, from early in the relationship what your boundaries are, you leave yourself open to anything he/she might feel like subjecting you to.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Symbol;">·<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Know your worth and act like it:</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> If you go around feeling that you are not worthy of good treatment, you don’t even need to open your mouth and say it…people will pick up that you have low self esteem simply by looking at you, your behaviour when you’re in the company of others, your entire demeanor will give you away. If you walk into a room, have confidence in yourself and tell yourself that you deserve the best man or woman in that room or you will attract the worse.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Symbol;">·<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">The longer you stay in a bad situation, the more difficult it becomes to break free:</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> The sad truth is that many people refuse to see the signs of a bad relationship from early, so like the frog in the water which is slowly being heated beneath him, they allow themselves to become aclimatized to the mess. The longer you take to walk away from something unhealthy, the more adjusted you become to that negative situation. You can lose yourself so much in a toxic relationship that you forget what a normal relationship is supposed to feel like. Many persons who’ve been in toxic relationships have deep regrets because one day they wake up and realize that they’ve probably spent the best years of their life, fighting a battle that wasn’t worth it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Symbol;">·<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Pull back and assess where you are:</span></b><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> If you find that you keep having the same type of relationships, the same kinds of people keep crossing your path, with the same kind of drama and stress, it is perhaps time to look inward…step back and take a long, hard look at yourself. What is it about you that is attracting these kinds of people to you? What similar characteristics have you noticed with these people you are attracting and what do you have in common with them? What many people fail to realize is that <i>like</i> spirits attract, For instance, people with low self esteem often attract people who also have low self esteem. The saying “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are,” shouldn’t be taken lightly. People gravitate to people who they believe are similar to themselves. If you’ve been in a string of toxic relationships, it is very possible that there is something about you that toxic people are attracted to. You need to identify and deal with it to break that cycle.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie Berbick is a motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-47998520888908564352016-06-05T12:01:00.000-07:002016-06-05T12:01:21.661-07:00Logging On to Love--The Pros and Cons of Online Dating<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRuwyQ90aYWweTOuhu95W416fVcxGgvrlhLE3q9_lYuIX6d2k47MRerdPc-g1GEvvrxgjSRYsMH1wUOh9jE_qG-5c3q8mx2gf1vctEuNaxhwmOVO-GWlJi0iRxfOdwIW87c3IBPCOilSw/s1600/13315541_10154242679743552_6644380764633051253_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiRuwyQ90aYWweTOuhu95W416fVcxGgvrlhLE3q9_lYuIX6d2k47MRerdPc-g1GEvvrxgjSRYsMH1wUOh9jE_qG-5c3q8mx2gf1vctEuNaxhwmOVO-GWlJi0iRxfOdwIW87c3IBPCOilSw/s320/13315541_10154242679743552_6644380764633051253_n.jpg" width="240" /></a><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Five or ten years ago, anyone who told you
they were on a dating website would probably be regarded as weird because of
the stigma that was attached to online dating. Today, new research is showing
that online dating is now the 2<sup>nd</sup> most popular way of meeting
someone and the stigma that was attached to the idea of seeking a mate online
is fast disappearing.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">In 2005, a Pew Research Centre survey found
that 44% of adults interviewed thought online dating was a good way to meet
someone. By 2015, that figure had increased to 59% while the stigmatized view
that online dating was for desperate persons has faded from 29 to 23% over the
same period. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Jamaicans are also logging on to love, with
more and more singles and even those who are attached, utilizing social media
and dating websites to find a mate. Some are free while others require a fee to
join but more persons are utilizing normal social media sites such as Facebook and
even the professional social media network Linked-In to find someone special. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Log onto some of the more notable free dating
websites such as POF.com and you will be sure to find an abundance of Jamaicans
seeking a mate. However, don’t be surprised if you see your neighbor or even
your mate among them! While online dating is a very convenient way of meeting a
potential mate, there are also pitfalls to this exciting journey. Here are a
few:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Not everybody is looking for a committed
relationship: </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Look
out for the players, both men and women. Despite what they say about wanting a
relationship, sometimes you can tell from their profile statement that they are
simply looking for a fling, rather than a serious relationship. Listen keenly
to what is not said. If their relationship status says “complicated” that’s a
good enough reason to take your time and ask some probing questions whilst
first contact is established.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The person you meet online might be a very
different person when you actually meet</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">. Personality is important in determining if
two people are good for each other. Online dating allows a lot of people to
hide behind a keyboard, create a fake persona and convince another person that
they are someone they are not. Some are shy people who come alive once you are
not physically seeing them. Try to meet the person as early as possible, so
that you can sum them up properly in different situations less you end up
wasting your time talking to a recluse for months and end up being disappointed
when you actually meet.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Beware of fake and outdated photos</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">—One of the biggest disappointments for some
persons who try online dating occurs when the handsome man or beautiful woman
they believe they had been talking to turns out to be anything but. Some persons
out rightly deceive with fake photos or utilize photos of themselves from their
‘glory’ days which may have long passed. This is why a lot of persons now prefer to
video talk when they have met someone online as they want to see who they are
talking to. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Married people and people with live-in
partners are on dating websites posing as singles</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">-Married and committed people, some of whom
are bored, sad or just bad, are on dating websites too. Their status might say
single when they are very much married or living with their spouse. Guard your
heart when trying online dating. Avoid becoming too emotionally attached to
someone you’ve only talked with online and are yet to meet in person. Sometimes
these people are simply going through a lull in their relationships or marriages
and want to be re-assured that they still ‘have it’ so online dating is a
perfect way to get validation without their spouse ever finding out about their
infidelity. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Find out as much as you can as early as
possible</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">-- When you meet
someone on a dating website, try to find out as much as you can about them off
that site. Google them, ask to be friends on Facebook so that you can see who
their ‘friends’ are. Do not limit your communication to the dating website
only, get their mobile number and other contact information and purposefully
initiate communication at different times of the day to see whether they have a
pattern that suggests they could be married or living with someone. Don’t feel
guilty about checking out people you’ve met online because it is quite likely
that they are also running background checks on you. There are locally based
private investigators whose services have been requested by persons overseas to
run checks on persons in Jamaican whom they have met online. Doing the early
detective work can save you from a major heartbreak later.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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and lots of work</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #444444; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">—Some
persons who live far apart have met online, had successful courtships despite
the distance and ended up getting married. However, not everyone will be this
lucky. Long distance relationships are not for everyone. They require a lot of
work, a clear understanding of both parties’ plans in terms of relocation and a
strong commitment to remaining focused on each other until they can permanently
be with each other. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters
United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her
on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-29956939330705049572016-06-05T10:17:00.000-07:002016-08-15T10:44:10.706-07:00Hell Hath No Fury Like a Man Cheated On!<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; line-height: 21.0pt;">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghwN2uWCEaQDNGuu4tu3YX6GhPaMPeJeU0bUgx2oq9zvcI6Juo0QYJx04SxzoYkwl8RU7nE5vBw4btqIXo8dBeAEaEOTMP81AToATQZvmcGe9Odvfvp3Bz4a14mqm-4Ogu6D6hnfr7yXI/s1600/20160426_103630.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghwN2uWCEaQDNGuu4tu3YX6GhPaMPeJeU0bUgx2oq9zvcI6Juo0QYJx04SxzoYkwl8RU7nE5vBw4btqIXo8dBeAEaEOTMP81AToATQZvmcGe9Odvfvp3Bz4a14mqm-4Ogu6D6hnfr7yXI/s320/20160426_103630.jpg" width="240" /></a><br />
<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">They say hell
hath no fury like a woman scorned but that’s not exactly true. Hell hath no
fury like a man cheated on! Ask any man what he fears most in a relationship
and his response won’t be losing his money. It’s giving his heart to a woman
who cheats on him or leaves him for another man.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">Men are
hunters and they are very competitive and territorial about their women. A man
can own a host of material things that he cherishes but he is better able to
deal with losing material things, than he is at dealing with being cheated on. Even
if he has other women, that special woman who has his heart must not cheat. She
is HIS and another man crossing the line into his territory is not only seen as
daring and disrespectful but it is demoralizing to him. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">If she cheats
on him, it is as though a rug has been swept from under his feet—a massive blow
to that feeling of being the King of the hill.
This is because ego is a major part of what sustains a man in a
relationship and being cheated on is a huge blow to his ego. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">One of the
toughest things for a man whose woman cheats is having to block out the
thoughts of her in bed with the other man. Men are visual beings with
photographic minds, especially when it comes to sex, so a man who has been
cheated on immediately begins to conjure up images of the other man being
intimate with his woman and it drives him nuts. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">Sometimes the
cheating doesn’t even have to physically take place before he begins to formulate
images in his mind. He just needs to know or suspect that another man is moving
in on his woman and the images of her with him, is enough to make him snap. He
cannot fathom the thought of another man being intimate with his woman.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">Being such a
visual being is what aids in pushing a man over the edge if he suspects that
his woman might be cheating. Right away he is thinking about the sexual things
he may have done with his woman, her expressions and reactions and he conjures
up images of his woman in similar scenes of intimacy with this other man. His
mind goes into overdrive trying to figure if she considers the other man a
better lover than he is.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">For the most
part, a woman wants to think that a man, at the first sight of her, has a pure
mind, with no immediate thought of what it would be like to have sex with her but
no such thing. Men are wired to think about sex. The UK Telegraph in 2014, quoted a study in
the </span><span lang="EN-US" style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; color: #282828; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;">Journal of Sex Research, which found that men think about sex
– on average – 34 times a day, compared with women at 19. </span><span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">Based on the
confessions of even men we consider to be gentlemen, within a short time of
meeting a woman he likes, a man begins to visualize what she looks like without
her clothes and what both of you would look like in the Garden of Eden! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">Another tough
scenario for a man who has been cheated on, is that he might even have other
women and does things with them that he does not do with his woman at home. If
she cheats, he imagines that man, possibly doing to her, the things he has done
with his other women and that kills him. When it comes to cheating, it is
easier for him to give than to take. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">Men
understand each other. A man might cheat and when he is with friends, boast
about his sexual encounters with other women. He is OK with beating his chest
as long as he doesn’t think that HIS woman is cheating on him because a healthy
ego is an important part of what defines him as ‘the man’ in a relationship. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">In one of my
little sessions with male friends last week, I was schooled that some men also
extend their territorial rights to their other women. It’s just a man thing. One of the men in the
focus group explained it like this: A man might be able to deal with a side
woman who has been involved with 49 other men before he came into the picture.
However, number 51 must not happen. She stops with him, number 50 and that’s
that. If she gets involved with number 51 he views it as cheating although he
has HIS bonafide woman at home.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="color: #1d2129; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; mso-ansi-language: EN-JM; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-JM;">The knowledge
among men, of how they think, how they view sex and cheating, is what makes a
man so afraid to trust another man around his woman. A man wants to be able to
own his woman and shout it from the mountain top that she is faithful to him. A
woman who holds a man’s heart can do serious damage to him if she cheats for
she has power over his ego. The truth is that men, despite their tough facade
are very much human, and quite vulnerable emotionally.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i><span lang="EN-US">Marie
Berbick is a motivational speaker and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters
United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her
on twitter @thePR Girl. Email </span></i><span lang="EN-US"><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14759260070591747645noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2440818643385717019.post-62410925350126242092016-06-05T10:00:00.000-07:002016-06-05T10:00:42.731-07:00Starting Over after Divorce or a Failed Relationship <div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 13.5pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt;">
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">For most persons who have been through a
divorce or failed long term relationship, starting over can seem like a
daunting task, one that many people fear. Just getting out the starting blocks
to re-invent yourself and try again can come with genuine fear. Fear of failing…again, or fear of the unknown
and for some people, there is often a fear of flying solo again.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt;">But how
does one get past the fears and just do it? F</span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt;">or some persons, who do not seek
professional help or spiritual healing, that fear of starting over never leaves them and they
spend the rest of their lives with emotional scars that rob them of happiness.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">If you are really serious about starting over,
and walking through the new doors that are already opened for you, there are
several things you must accept and be willing to do, in order to move on.</span></div>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">.</span><b style="line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Accept
that things didn’t work out with that other person and acknowledge your role in
the failures</span></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">: It takes two to
tango, so despite what your partner may have done and the extent of damage
their behavior caused, you still need to look within. Doing your own self examination
will help you to adopt a more successful approach to your next relationship.</span></li>
</ul>
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<li><b style="line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Take the lessons learnt and apply them to help
you move forward:</span></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"> There is always some
useful lesson to take away from a failed relationship. I often say there are no
mistakes, just opportunities for us to learn to be smarter and wiser in our
approach to life. If the man was ‘Mr. Perfect” when you met him, what changed
or what were the red flags that you missed during the courtship? Sometimes the
issues we perceive to be little things and overlook them during the courtship
are actually the ones most likely to cause major problems later in the
relationship. </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b style="line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Work
on yourself:</span></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"> Some of us overlook the need for professional
help after a failed </span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">marriage or relationship. Men are notorious for avoiding
counselling but ladies, counsellors serve their purpose. Whether you seek that
support through the church or a professional counsellor, it does help to get
counselling as a failed relationship can seriously affect your self esteem.
There are many bitter, hurting and emotionally traumatized women out there who
need professional help and spiritual healing. Some have vowed never to
re-marry, some are sworn off men, and some are looking for men to punish. Seek
counseling after that broken marriage. Don’t rob yourself of the ability to
experience the healthy relationship you deserve.</span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b style="line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Allow
healing to take place before you try again</span></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">. If you are angry and feeling like a failure, do not even think
about embarking on another relationship. Allow healing to take place first.
There are several stages that we go through after a broken relationship,
including denial and anger. I recall walking around for months with the ‘don’t
even think about it’ look on my face as a warning to men who had any inkling
that they could approach me. It doesn’t help you. You must also guard your
heart. A divorced, separated or hurting woman is very vulnerable and a prime
target for men seeking something other than a meaningful relationship. If you
are not careful, you will find yourself attracting all the wrong types of men
during this period of vulnerability. That is why a good support system is
necessary for any woman going through separation or divorce.</span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b style="line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Adjust
your mind to your new situation</span></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">: One of the most challenging things for any woman going through
separation or divorce is learning to adjust to the new financial realities. As
my mother would say “Bend your mind to your condition”. In some situations,
your partner may even seek to ‘punish’ you for leaving that marriage by
tightening up the purse strings and the children too will experience some harsh
realities when you are no longer able to buy everything they pick up in the
supermarket. Whilst you seek maintenance for your children, which is your
right, re-adjust your mind, accept that your spending power has been reduced
and seek out opportunities for additional income. Also use the opportunity to
be a better financial manager and seek professional advice on investment
options. Adopt an attitude of ‘needs versus wants’ toward your spending. The
longer you take to accept that things aren’t the way they used to be
financially and work with what you have, the longer you will remain miserable
and angry.</span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;">6.<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span><b style="line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Rebrand yourself:</span></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; line-height: 13.5pt; text-indent: -0.25in;"> Starting over after a
divorce or broken relationship requires you to rebrand yourself. Shed the old
skin and come out with a new attitude and confidence that radiates. Some of us
were married for a long time and completely forgot how to do things without a
partner. Our dependence makes it difficult for us to re-adjust when we find
ourselves forced to fly solo again. The good thing is that these situations can
allow us to discover talents and strengths we didn’t know we had! Welcome the
change and see it as an opportunity to discover the new you. You can start
over, you can successfully fly solo until that special person comes along. A
divorce or broken relationship can throw you out to sea but it’s up to you to
either sink or swim. What’s your choice?</span></li>
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<i>Marie Berbick aka The
PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker and founder of
the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing, Empowerment &
Restoration. (SUPHER)Catch up with her articles on her blog Diary of a PR Girl
at </i><a href="http://diaryofajamaicanprgirl.blogspot.com/"><i>http://diaryofajamaicanprgirl.blogspot.com/</i></a><i>. Email </i><a href="mailto:marieberbick@gmail.com"><i>marieberbick@gmail.com</i></a><i><o:p></o:p></i></div>
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