Despite what you may
have heard, it’s not only women who when they lose out to another woman, take
the time to size up their competition. Yes, a man also gets rattled when a
woman chooses another man over him.
Often the jilted woman
reacts more emotionally than a man in the same situation does, but just like
women, men also hate being rejected. A man who either loses his woman to
another man or loses out on his bid to win the affection of a woman he is
seriously interested in, spends time going over in his head, possible reasons
he lost. He tries to figure out several things.
1. Money--- Having money means a lot to most men. They want to be able
to impress or take care of their woman, so yes a man wonders if the object of
his affection chose the other man because that man is better able to provide
for her. In fact, if this is the case, that can be a huge blow to his ego. No
man wants to lose a woman to another man because he is unable to adequately
provide for her. One of the worse things a woman can do to a man who is doing
his best to provide for her, is to tell him she can find a man who can give her
more than he can. It will rattle him to his core and sometimes takes years for
him to get over.
2. Sex- perhaps even moreso than
lack of money, no man wants to lose his woman to another man because the other
man is better in bed than he is. If a woman cheats on her partner, one of the
first things the man who has been cheated on does, is to go over and over in
his mind, the visual image of his woman with that other man. One of the most
burning questions in the man’s head is whether the other man was better than he
is. Some men will muster up the courage to actually ask, even if it’s not a
straight forward question, because he is very curious to know and wants to
improve even if this relationship is over. Some men will never ask. Their ego
will not allow them to ask such a question. He would rather torment himself
with the thoughts in his head for he cannot handle the answer, if in fact his
worse fears are confirmed.
3. Looks- Although a lot of men strongly believe that once they have
money, looks is secondary to most women, a man does question himself about his
attractiveness when rejected. Unlike women, men are better at hiding the fact
that they feel threatened by a man who is physically more attractive. However,
if you get them to open up, you will be surprised how fragile a man’s ego is. So,
yes, a man will size up a more attractive man whom he feels threatened by.
Having money, good
looks and being a great lover are all plus factors for men but one of the
biggest mistakes men make sometimes, is thinking that material things are the
greatest attractions for all women. Not true. Depending on the type of woman, sometimes it's not about how
much money a man has, nor the cars and houses that he owns, that will attract a
certain kind of woman. It's about what makes him different from all the others…how
he treats her, how much love and respect he shows her, how he values and
treasures her. How much time he takes to really understand her so that he can
fulfill her needs and love her right. A woman who already has material comfort
will appreciate a man who comes to her with something far deeper than material
things. He must speak to her soul.
Marie
Berbick aka The PR Girl, is a Communications Specialist, motivational speaker
and founder of the women’s ministry Sisters United for Prayer, Healing,
Empowerment & Restoration. (SUPHER). Follow her on twitter @thePR Girl. Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MarieBerbick/
Email
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